By Aggressive - 24/07/2013 13:12 - Ireland - Dublin
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My son had to clean up the mess, and pay for any damages, also he's grounded for a LONG time. Hopefully he'll learn from this. At the moment, my sisters still too drunk to be reasonable, I'll have to speak to her when she's sober. As for the kids at the party, most of their parents have been notified!
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Obviously he should be punished but now that you know that he drinks maybe you could be more open to him doing it in the house? When my granny found out I drank at 16 I was allowed to have a drink or two at a family get together but nothing serious like spirits. Anyway letting him find out his limits is good because you don't want to be the parent of the guy who comes home, vomits in the sink and sleeps on the kitchen floor at 19
Exactly, join in the party. That's what I would do, unless there was beer, then everyone out. But if it was just a party-party, I'd join in, make everyone uncomfortable, and ground him when it was over. Seriously, if you're kid can get 30 people to show up to a party, then I would let him have his cake and eat it, too. I can't get anyone other than family, and really close friends to show up to mine, your kid has the magic touch. :)
I'm old enough, and responsible enough to have a party with alcohol. I would flip if I had an underage son, with beer, at a party in my house. You don't have to have alcohol to have a good time, it helps, but it's not always necessary. Also, different countries, different laws. If it's legal where you live, and you feel your kids are responsible enough to hold their liquor, at your house, while you're not there, then do it. It's not my place to say anything different. Just make sure they also are responsible enough to stay sober, and have no one leave drunk without a cab or sober friend. (Keep in mind they'll be without you). And If you still have that much faith/trust in your kid, then why would anyone say no?