Anonymous
United States
Today, I asked for permission to marry the girl I love. Her father not only said no, he said "HELL no!" FML
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Thanksgiving
Questions about your love life, a burnt turkey and the cousin who knows everything: Thanksgiving, a contact sport.
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Anonymous
Dallas, United States
Property dispute
Today, I asked my girlfriend's dad for permission to take her hand in marriage. He said no, because he doesn't want her marrying a "sexist idiot who treats her like property", which he thinks asking permission amounts to, then told me to grow up. FML
Vinny1017
United States
Traditional
Today, I asked my girlfriend's father if I could marry his daughter. He smiled, shook my hand, and said "No. Now get out of my house." FML
Anonymous
United States
Today, my girlfriend's father sent me a text message that simply stated "You ruined my relationship with my daughter." I wanted to ask him for his blessing to marry his daughter. FML
Chewy
United Kingdom
Today, after my girlfriend telling me for years that she would marry me in a heartbeat, I finally proposed. She said no. FML
notready
Australia
Today, I proposed to my girlfriend at a dinner with our two families. Not only did she flatly reject me, my dad said, "Good call. He's not ready." FML
Anonymous
North Adams, United States
Today, I asked my girlfriend's father for permission to take his daughter's hand in marriage. He asked me "Which one?" I said "Uh, the one I'm dating... Lisa." He belched and said, "Yeah sure, throw 'er off a cliff for all I care. Piss off, boy." So much for chivalry. FML
Anonymous
Australia
Today, my boyfriend asked my father for permission to marry me. My father refused, on the basis that I'm the only person in the house with a job, and if I leave he will have to start looking for work. My boyfriend won't marry me without his permission, and my lazy father won't change his mind. FML
Anonymous
Mountain View, United States
Family values
Today, I proposed to my girlfriend. She said she wanted to accept, but that she'd basically have to get her mom's permission first. Apparently the answer was no. The worst thing is that she really is this unhealthily dependent on her mom, and probably wasn't lying about needing her permission. FML
Anonymous
Saint Gallen, Switzerland
Today, I happily told my parents that my boyfriend proposed to me last night. My dad's response? "Marry that goofy bastard and you're out of the will." FML
John
United States
Today, I proposed to my girlfriend of 6 years. She said no. Why? She's already married. FML
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sixfoot2 0
in 2011 we still have to ask parents for permission?
SpaceMannn 0
We need permission? What? Where the hell did I put my dang permission slip?!...
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Comments (155)
mrjude 3
Women aren't property, so you don't need their father's permission. Stop treating them like property and maybe you'd be better off.
marcranger 29
this line of thinking only works if the woman has to ask her future MIL's permission too. of not, then it goes straight back to a sexist an outdated tradition that needs to die already.
ShadowPunkChick 1
When my husband and I were just dating, I told him if he ever wanted to propose to me not to ask permission from my father because not only is it lame, it's also not his decision to make. To be honest I think its rather disrespectful to the woman, unless she, for whatever reason, wants you to have her father's permission..
nibh 0
run away with that assholes daughter
Nizzit 1
**** this outdated tradition. It's not the dad's decision. I don't even care if it's symbolic or whatever BS reason people who support this can come up with. Its roots are in a patriarchal society and this ancient relic of inequality should die.
KattoTang 0
You people saying that it's "respectful to the parents" are idiots. If it respects the parents then why does it only concern asking the girl's father and not the mother? Because it is not a matter of respect, just an old tradition based on the idea that women are property to be handed over. Ask the woman and let her decide for herself is she wants to marry your sorry ass, though I hope she realizes what a putz you are and tells you no as well.
Egnar 19
No, you ask the father because traditionally the father is the head of the household.
KattoTang 0
The father being the "head of the household" is a tradition stemmed from a patriarchal view of women as property. How about showing your girlfriend respect and asking her? Guess no one considers that.
R2KT 0
guys seriously? it's a tradition of respect. no more, no less. it is between OP and his potential fiancé. but it kinda sucks to get married without parental approval of your spouse if you care about your parents' opinion. I personally am going to say "**** you" to my parents when I get married and hope that his parents like me. but it's not like that for everyone else. OP can do whatever the hell he wants but he tried to show her father respect and was rejected. this really shouldn't be a political debate
KattoTang 0
No, seriously, it's from the view of women as property. It stems from more or less respecting the "owner" and his rights to the "property", not respecting the woman's parents in the same way people today define respect. Like others have said, asking for their blessing is one thing. Asking her father's permission to marry her is just archaic and misogynistic, and completely disrespects this woman he claims to "love".
jamnglamgirlie 17
U could ask him why or propose to her anyways
riversxxx 0
dood do it anyway!
HBubble 3
YDI for asking. Grow a pair.