By anonymous - 20/04/2016 03:09 - United States - Saint Paul
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Yeah, this was a super gross way to do it, "say yes because you're too weak to say no!"
66, he was trying to be funny by treating her as if her height defined her and not allowing her the chance to say no. Neither of those things are funny, in fact "gross" is a much more apt word. Offensive, dehumanizing, and self-centered are a few other possible words. The fact that he thought it was funny is not a defense, in fact it says terrible things about his character that he would think something like that was funny.
You guys do realize that crap like what OP tried to pull is how rape culture gets perpetuated, right? Saying it was a joke only makes it worse. I'm proud of that girl for her response, but sad she didn't decide to kick him in the balls to get him to lower the sign instead.
Wow. Making fun of her height and denying her the right to refuse you in one go? How could a girl resist? Yes, I realize it's a joke, but... seriously not funny.
I really think it depends on their relationship. If they had been flirty and there was some light hearted teasing by both of them, I think the idea is really cute. But if she is self conscious about her height, or if they haven't had much interaction with each other, it comes off as rude and controlling.
51 exactly. If you didn't interact with her much before or aren't close, it's kinda rude and creepy. If you were close and it's common for such jokes, cute. Just because an idea CAN be cute and funny doesn't mean it will be in every case. You have to think over your relationship with the person and how they might react to such things.
#18 and #20 "Here, I'm gonna make a joke that may be quite offensive to you, here's how I want you to react to my offensive joke"... Self-deprecating jokes are only ok if the person is secure and comfortable about the subject - as a short girl she may have been very sensitive about her height. And that's the thing - when you make a joke at somebody else's expense - you CANNOT then stipulate what sort of reaction you should get in return, from the very person who was the subject of your mocking.
It depends on the girl you are doing it to. There are some who would find it funny, and some who would find it offensive. It's nothing to do with having a sense of humour because there are a lot of girls in the middle who would change their mind depending on who did it and when. OP deserves what happened because they tried something that any fool could see might be offensive without working out which camp the girl would be in.
#137 Yes I am insecure about my height, but it has nothing to do with "growing up" or anything. Being a short person, especially when always around rather tall people can be intimidating. Being mocked for being short can hurt. A few people in my life always refer to me as "hey short to the ground" and that hurts coming from someone who is supposed to love and care for me, I couldn't imagine something like that from a stranger. So please get off your high horse and "grow up" yourself if you can't understand such a simple concept.