By playdated - 06/06/2014 06:24 - United States - San Francisco
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people are always friends with someone that has cool toys...
Some of the best relationships start as friendships in the sandbox throwing sand in each other's faces and screaming "No, YOU are a poopyhead!" Don't forget to put on a clean diaper first, and bring an extra juice box for her. Chicks dig that. Good luck.
Don't worry about it OP. Some people are just very shy and need that little push. I hope the "play date" goes well :)
why don't start some team sport? so you have to talk to people and people specially have to talk to you, if you are really that shy.
I see your point and I know those people for sure. But you have to give it a try and talk to some people unless you don't want to die alone. But this story makes me think about my own behaviour towards those people. I really should talk to them by myself a bit more so they won't feel bad and start talking a bit. I know those situations when you are all alone in a group of strangers and don't really know what to do. I was always happy about that one person which started to talk to me, though it was just small talk. It made me always feel better.
It's not that they don't go out often, it's the fact that they're shy. They may have social anxiety so it's hard for them to make friends! I sympathise with OP, I understand that you're saying they should 'try' more, but some people just aren't confident enough.
If someone has severe social anxiety that's one thing but it seems like "everyone" who's even a little shy claims social anxiety and refuses to attempt to change. Where I'm from that's called a cop out. Getting out of your comfort zone can yield some amazing results.
duckofshame: did the op say anywhere they have never tried? no, so stop filling in details. plus you obviously have no idea what the OP is going through in the shyness department. its like telling someone thats depressed to just be happy, it is insulting and doesnt help. THATS why you were downvoted
@ #54 actually.... Ummm it's very normal for someone to claim helplessness to get people to come to them. @72 Sadly it's in how you say it not what you're actually saying. You can have a perfectly valid point but if you don't explain it piece by piece 99% of people won't understand it at all. And then they'll think you're just being a dick. Think politics here. You can say nothing, but say nothing in a certain way and you get voted in.
Agreed, it's one of those thing those things that only get easier with practice. Like asking people out, or making new friends your going to feel uncomfortable and you are going to get hurt. The surge of it makes me wonder about the use of the internet making people more afraid of taking that chance because they feel more safe online and don't develop the social skills needed.
Shyness is a real tough one to crack - and I speak from experience. When I started my university, I could barely talk to anyone (I have a problem with talking to anyone I don't know) and we had a meet and greet at a pub the first day. I just sat on a chair in the corner and hoped nobody spoke to me But besides all that, I really would like to know how this meeting goes. Friendships can start in the oddest of ways - from borrowing a pencil to both being rendered speeches by meeting a famous musician