By daddyowl - 25/05/2012 04:32 - Canada - Montreal
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Why? I'd rather my mom tell me the honest truth than lie to me. My mom has told me in the past that I have gained weight and that it doesn't look good on me. Yes, it was a little painful hearing it from my mom but at the same time, it was a reality check. I hit the gym after that and have managed to keep it off. Overall, was her advice in my best interest? Absolutely! Not only do I feel and look good, I am also happy knowing that I'm not a fat slob who will later develop weight-related medical conditions.
20, no, a mother should never let her child become a fat obese lonely slob. There's a difference between accepting your child as God created him/her and indulging your child's self-harming habits. For example, you should accept your child if he/she was born with three limbs and autism, however, you should intervene when your child relishes in two McD's triple pound angus beef burgers with an XL smoothie and thinks that walking from his/her Laz-Boy to the bathroom to take a piss is exercise.
Some people hate the idea of someone else living their dreams. They hate their own life so they have to crush anyone else's dreams.
Some parents just want to see their children living up to their full potential and don't know how to express it better. She may want to see OP as rich, successful, beautiful, and happy because she believes he deserves all those things but instead of coming out as "you deserve the best in life", it comes out as "what you're doing isn't good enough". OP, mothers can get yo us like no one else. Try telling your mum that you know she loves you and wants the best for you. It might change the dialogue completely.
10 - Unfortunately you're right. Sounds like my aunt who now has custody of me. She's good to me, but she pops pills like crazy (says they're for blood pressure. I'm sorry, I didn't realize you had to take a handful of different pills just for your blood pressure. And do you really need to carry a full bottle of pills everywhere you go? She does.) and when she comes home from work in a bad mood it's apparently my fault (even though I wasn't at work with her) and whenever she's mad at her child's father she takes it out on me. And she says "I don't believe in love." so she tries to get me and my boyfriend to hate each other. Sorry for the ranting. I was just pointing out that you were right.
Just don't worry about it. If you want to loose weight, do it for yourself. Maybe your mom just has a terrible way of expressing herself (mine does the same thing) but she wants the best for you, deep down. Congratulations and good luck with the new job.