By Anonymous - 05/02/2016 09:55 - United Kingdom

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Today, a long standing fantasy was ruined when the only lasting impression from my first threesome was of how good my boyfriend is at giving other guys a blowjob. FML
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I don't understand why you're so bothered, you're the one that chose to have a threesome? And for those commenting that he's "using her as a coverup" - 1) it was a threesome, a sexual act in which all members interact with one another and 2) bisexuals exist 3) kindly shut the fuck up oh my god

Most threesomes seem to ruin people's relationships.

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That really sucks OP. No pun intended.

you know you intended that pun!

Maybe a little bit :-)

Maybe he was just trying to show her how he likes it done. There is a world of difference between giving head and giving a good blow job. Sadly many women fall in the former category. The same is true for men attempting to "eat" (for lack of a better word) women. It takes time and communication both ways to learn how please each other.

Yeah, but he said it was a big bit though ;)

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Bisexuality, ever heard of it?

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49, refer to comment 12 :)

obviously already "referred" to that comment already since I responded to it, but ok.

I would also like to point out that as a guy he probably knows what another guy would like. I'm straight but if for any reason I went down on a girl I could certainly do a much better job than any guy. doesn't make you gay to perform a sexual act on someone of the same sex. now if you PREFER the same sex thats means you're gay. but to be curious or to be swept up in the emotions of having a threesome doesn't mean you're gay.

Dont you have to be partly gay to be bisexual?

I beg to differ on the whole a girl knows what another girl wants thing. 1.) unless you do it frequently you probably aren't very good 2.) all girls are different

Yes rylcrazy, you are partially gay if you are bisexual. You are 100% correct, which is why #2's comment is correct.

Well no, that's just silly. You're either gay or bisexual. There's no such thing as being 'partly,' gay. Homosexuality is an absolute, as is heterosexuality. Being bisexual simply means you enjoy sex with both men and women, not that you're 'partly,' gay...

Most threesomes seem to ruin people's relationships.

Untrue. I've been married 8 yrs, with her for 14. We don't do that stuff anymore but it didn't cause issues.

"most". notice the word "most"

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Sorry, this is going to be long, I apologize ahead of time. The only reason why most threesomes ruin relationships is because there are circumstances that those individuals didn't meet. Many people believe they can handle it or are ready for it, but aren't yet there. If you don't have a healthy and communicative relationship with your primary partner then you should not attempt having a threesome. If you're intentions are to simply please your partner then you're going to have a bad time. All people involved need to be on the same page and want it. communication is key too, you need to set boundaries and be open with one another. There are many variables, I highly recommend you look into it before acting upon it. Maybe read stories about things going for the better and then some going for the worse and deciding if you're willing to give it a shot. Look up the dos and don'ts as well as the things you should consider before having a threeway. All I'm saying is that threesomes aren't bad as long as you do your research and be smart and open about it. Many times people jump into it in order to please their partner and that's going to be disastrous.

i agree with #106. im a jealous guy. and i cant stand the thought of my fiance pleasuring another guy right in front of me. but other people enjoy seeing stuff like that. its all about preference

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#4 Or maybe OP'S boyfriend has never had an experience with a man and is now finding that he enjoys it? Not everyone is completely sure about their sexual preference, he could be confused.

or just bi or pan or anywhere else on the scale. sexually isn't so black and white

or just bi or pan or anywhere else on the scale. sexually isn't so black and white

#112, yeah it is

No it's not.

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You must not watch porn. Could be two straight guys taking her at the same time in different ways. It was perfectly reasonable to assume that.

But it's unreasonable for her to rule out other possibilities, so she shouldn't have been blindsided when he did so.

She probably thought she'd be the centre of attention.

No it's not. I've had threesomes with a dud and a woman. Every single time whether there would be any MM interaction was discussed prior. That's what adults do.

Well by the tone of OP's post, it seems that it was more than just spreading the love and the boyfriend was more enthusiastic about the other guy.

It doesn't sound like that, at all. It sounds like OP is upset that they were bad in the threesome.

I don't get it. You said it was there some, you, bf and one other dude. So how come you bf was able to give bj to GUYS, multiple? Was that foresome? Maybe he was showing you a technique he wanted you to learn

English. Learn it.

he could have previous experience with it and just be bisexual (cos yknow... it is a thing) and be dating you now? I don't see what the big deal is

I do. I don't want to watch my sexual partner pleasure someone of the same sex. That would be a huge turn off for me. Knowing it and actually *seeing* it would be two very different experiences. And I'm also guessing this may be the first hint she's had of her boyfriend's bisexuality, which would come as a shock in that specific situation. And before anyone accuses me of homophobia, know that I support the right to gay marriage, and realize that just as other people have the right to be turned on by homoerotic activity, I have the right to be turned off by it. See, for me, homosexual acts are kind of like my parents having sex. I'm all for it, but I don't want to see it. Sorry. That's just how I feel and I can't help it. Maybe OP can't either.

Then it was extremely stupid of her to organize a threesome with two guys, especially without stating what she wanted.

she ?? wanted a threesome ??? that was her huge fantasy ?????? did she expect them to ignore each other the whole time ??? and btw 28 that's still homophobia lmao

No Homophobia is by definition being scared of same sex relationships of a sexual nature It's like saying I don't like chocolate ice cream You can support the fact that chocolate ice cream is loved by millions of people But that doesn't mean that you're going to eat it when someone gives it to you

Please explain why it's homophobia. Is a gay man a misogynist because he's turned off by a woman's body? If I'm turned off by anyone's body, does that automatically mean I hate that person? Kindly get off your high horse and think logically for a moment. If you believe that homosexuals can't help what turns them on or off, then that logic should apply to me too. And as for what she should have expected, if she didn't know her boyfriend was bisexual before, how could she have possibly expected him to pleasure the other man? Obviously she would have expected them both just to pleasure her. But you both are right in that she should have made her expectations clear, however the same could be said of him. It appears it didn't occur to either of them that expectations needed to be stated. Seems they both made some foolish assumptions.

Thank you, 38.

33- no it really isn't. Not getting turned on by something is not the same as hatred of the people who do...

#33 are you retarded?

I agree with 39. You don't always know how a person will react in a sexual situation. Her bf could be straight as a board but got caught up in the experience and gave another guy a BJ. It would be a very shocking sight to see someone who you think is straight perform an act like that on someone of the same sex. also I'm not sure if OP thought it was a big deal but just that it was the only moment that was anything to remember. I know if I thought of doing something like that it would certainly be much better in my head than rl. Maybe layoff of everyone and try and speak like a normal human?

#33 Your comment pisses me off. I would find it a huge turn off too if I watched my boyfriend make out with another guy. And I was VP in my high schools Gay Straight Alliance club for two years and I have two Gay family members. So im obviously not homophobic. Lots of people have different turn ons and turn offs, that doesn't make them homophobic or prejudice against the LGBTQ community.

And that’s why you don’t have threesome (and it’s totally your right), unlike OP who chose to. OP, he might be a natural ;) I would not read too much into it

That blows, but at least you learned something.

She needs to learn how to blow like he does, apparently.

This reminds me of that FML where the boyfriend showed his gf how easy it was to deep-throat

with something that didn't move in and out of his mouth, mind you.

oh yeah I remember that one

I don't understand why you're so bothered, you're the one that chose to have a threesome? And for those commenting that he's "using her as a coverup" - 1) it was a threesome, a sexual act in which all members interact with one another and 2) bisexuals exist 3) kindly shut the fuck up oh my god

Bahahahaha! Thank you for that completely perfect response!

As much as you guys might disagree, I feel that in a threesome where there are two straight guys, the girl is the only centre of common sexual interaction. No straight guy would suck another's dick simply because they are having a threesome in my opinion. And as for the possibility of bisexuality, OP is entitled to be shocked if she just found out.

I dont think OPs issue is wroth the fact that he did it but that it was the most memorable thing as in she didn't enjoy her experience and her only take away was that her BF is gay.

Not only is #9 a get right to the point kinda girl, she's a 3-way expert.... Nice. Lol

True, she's entitled to be shocked by her bf being bi, and while "no straight guy" would suck a dick, the whole straight/bi/gay et al thing is a wide spectrum, and it's a matter of where you fall within that. No one label can accurately describe most people. I fall into the bi area, but know I would never date a guy simply because that's not what I find attractive about the same sex. Rather, I just like the sexual aspects of being with another guy, whereas some other bi identifying person might hate the idea of sucking a dick but love the idea of dating a guy. Bi the way, (see what I did there? ;) ) I'm married to a beautiful woman, and I told her I was bi on our second date, a gamble for sure, as that's scared off many women before her, but it was worth getting it out there in the beginning rather than waiting as it seems OP did here!

It's not exactly a far-stretch to think that dudes are better at giving blowjobs than girls. Guys know what guys like just like girls know what girls like. Women know where most of a woman's buttons are. The same can be said about men.

Plus, I think OP is bothered because they weren't as good as they thought they were. Not by the actual blowjob.

Perhaps the FML here is not that her boyfriend gives a good blowjob. Perhaps the FML is that the threesome was not really fun for her. If her only lasting impression about was with regards to her boyfriends blowjob giving ability it is unlikely that she got to orgasm at all, let alone had a GOOD orgasm. Think about it realistically, how lost in the throws of ecstasy could she have been if she had the cognitive ability to take into account how good her boyfriend is at blowing someone else?

There's always a risk of someone getting hurt in a threesome.

Right? the mechanics of the thing boggle the mind. Someone could lose an eye.

Especially without a safe word...

Always keep a first aid kit nearby