By Carnage23 - 05/06/2016 12:38 - Germany - Herborn
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More like rude. My parents would never let that fly. When I was seven I got carsick and threw up on the spot, no warning, didn't even feel it coming, and my parents still made me clean it up myself. Him counting back like that shows that he voluntarily had an accident, even when his dad didn't say no, he just said that he couldn't pull over right then. If I were OP I would discipline him and teach him that comfort will not always be immediate.
I'm with you 28. A 5 yo has enough bladder control to last beyond a 10-count; barring any physical or mental developmental delays, I'd say the turd did it spitefully. Bodily functions are one of the few things that young children have control over, and it is well-documented that they are mentally capable of manipulating adults in regards to these functions. The count down was likely him mimicking his parents and asserting his authority in this situation. If it were my kid, he'd be cleaning it up. (PHD in Infant & child development)
Just because they're a kid doesn't mean they don't know better. I work with kids all day long and sometimes, they just do what they want to do, even if they know it's wrong. So, yes, punishing the kid in a situationally appropriate way would definitely be what I would have done.
How are they assholes? My parents did the same. A 7 year old isn't a newborn, man. A 7 year old can think to clean up a mess they made. The same people who don't think that kid should've been punished for PURPOSELY peeing in the car, are the same ones who are still picking up all of their kids' toys when they're 11 years old. Get a rag and some soap and water and clean it up. Nothing more to it. It's not cruel or anything. Just teaching the kid that comfort isn't immediate and to clean up after yourselves.
What I don't understand here is why cleaning up after yourself is used as a punishment. If we have kids pick up their toys, tidy their rooms, and wipe up their spills, what's wrong with having them clean up an accident? Yes it's pee (etc.), yes it was an accident (or not), and just like any other mess, you made it and you should (at least help) clean it up. Not a punishment, just part of what it means to clean up after yourself.
When kids say they have have to go, they really have to go. Still in gonna say FYL because It usually isn't an option to pull over and let your kid pee.
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Wrong answer. When you have a passenger in your car and they need to pee you pull over or take the next exit if you can. Being a "hard ass" about it does nothing, except piss in your car and a upset passenger.
The countdown suggests to me your kid is a jerk. He didn't have an accident; he counted down then let it loose. 10 seconds isn't even enough time to pull over and get him out. Hope you had him help clean up the mess and put him in pull-ups for road trips now.