Seems pretty reasonable. I heard this story about a girl who had sex without her tubes tied and 9 months later this screaming goo creature tore it's way out of her body, some say to this day it still follows her around demanding time, food, attention.

tell him to get snip-snip. he will heal faster and its an out-patient surgery

How about him getting a vasectomy? Much easier

He can get a vasectomy, then. Or for guaranteed results, get castrated. Problem solved.

you could still do oral also during your period you can't get pregnant

Tell him you'd be willing to put on a strap-on and give him anal. Think outside the box, so to speak.

You both do know that every months for more or less 2 weeks, you have no-chance at all to get pregnant?

There are many methods of pleasing a partner that don’t involve pregnancy risk. Do both of you own fingers? Lips? And condoms if he’s really paranoid?

If he is absolutely NO KID policy, HE needs to protect himself from being baby-maker material. Tell him to get a vasectomy or get bent.

Sounds like that he agreed with himself when you are hesistating. He manipulates you, he is ready to hurt you for the sake of his pleasure. Run, baby, run.