she probably just jealous of u.

At first I felt ashamed of not knowing what "chanfe" meant. It sounds fancy.

Always consider what someones parents are like, and what impact it may have had on them. An overbearing mother could indicate a spineless mama's boy....which means run.

It doesn’t matter if you’re a physicians assistant, you don’t ask random people online that kind of information in order to discern if they’re fat or not. Not your job.

You're trying to help OP but people will shit on you anyway. It's a fair question.

Height/weight ratio doesn't determine health or even obesity. It determines BMI, but it's long been determined that that alone doesn't determine the actual state of obesity or any medical condition. If you're not asking for stature/build, then you're not even able to determine what part of the BMI scale you should be considering to determine if their height/weight ratio falls into obese categories.

It might be a "fair" question if the right parameters were being requested. In order to determine a person's health, you'd need to confirm their biological sex, height, weight, stature, age and approximate bone density, and then also have a potential caliper test to determine whether or not they were actually obese. "Clinically obese" is not determined by weight and height alone and I find it questionable that a person trying to qualify their knowledge in this way would get any support at all. OP only needs to consider the opinion of their personal PCP when it comes to concerns about their weight. Assuming that OP might be "clinically obese" and not know it is, in my opinion, part of the attitude that plagues the medical community these days.

Exactly. The fact that they asked JUST height and weight automatically makes their “physical assessment” a guesstimate at best.

You know, she could just freaking use that information and google it, too.

While I agree that it’s unfair to assume that OP is clinically obese without realizing it, I will give you some love for the tap shoes comment. I’m an ex dancer, and this is totally something I would do. And I’d also show the mom some videos of prima ballerinas cuz they’re some of the skinniest women, yet they make noise when they walk/dance too.

... She said she's "not close to fat" I was 5"4 and weighed 135 lbs, and my mother would told me I'm fat and gave me a weight loss book for Christmas. Some mothers are just like this.

Yeah people are weird with other people's weights. People told me that I was too thin and too fat at the same time. You can never get it right.