Hissy fit incoming!

By bad friend - 22/10/2019 05:00 - United States - Monterey Park

Today, my boyfriend’s female "best friend" hates me for absolutely no other reason other than she, "just doesn’t get along with girls." Boyfriend doesn’t see a problem with this, and insists I should just accept it since, "that’s just how she is." Time to throw the whole man away. FML
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Yea, fuck that noise. Seriously it wouldn't even matter which gender his best friend is, as soon as they decide "I'll never like one of your girlfriends just because they're girls", and him being fine with that, it's a lost cause lmao. Good luck to him being friends with someone who's gonna ruin every attempt at a serious relationship he'll have.

Sounds like the best friend has a crush on him

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Yea, fuck that noise. Seriously it wouldn't even matter which gender his best friend is, as soon as they decide "I'll never like one of your girlfriends just because they're girls", and him being fine with that, it's a lost cause lmao. Good luck to him being friends with someone who's gonna ruin every attempt at a serious relationship he'll have.

I didn't realize I was required to screen my friends through my partner. It would be as asinine as demanding, as a friend, that all my friend's partners be screened through me. Not everybody has to like everyone, and other people's personal prefrences are none of your business. You don't know her reasons. Imagine telling a female rape victim with PTSD or anxiety she has to befriend your boyfriend or else she's not your friend anymore

Yea, let’s bring up rape victims. Makes sense. See, I have this weird thing where I want my best friend and boyfriend to get along. Crazy, I know. But if my best friend decides not to like him because of his gender and no other reason I wouldn’t just shrug it off. My best friend not giving my boyfriend a chance would show a huge lack of consideration for ME. And me not caring that my boyfriend is hurt by it would show a huge lack of consideration for HIM. But you do you. Fuck consideration, eh? Who cares if the people you’re supposed to care about don’t like each other? Can’t see that being a problem ever.

My point was that's the only reason she knows, and that the reason she doesn't know could very well be valid. That's why I bring up an extreme example. A person's reasons for preference on friendships also remain none of your business. You can want your friends and partner to get along all you want, but you can't force friendships, either building or destroying them. Besides, are you really going to pull the consideration card while plotting to destroy your partner's friendships? You do realize relationships are a 2 way street, don't you?

He's that dispensable? If he's worth a shit, you should at least give him the ultimatum that he's got to cut off his friend or you're out.

Do you really think that will go over well?

It's a long shot. If she's ready to give up on him anyway, she doesn't have much to lose.

Any man that would betray the loyalty to his friend is not a man worth shit.

If you give your partner ultimatums like that you’re a horrible person. You should be accepting your partner for who they are and all the friends they come with.

He’s the one that doesn’t see a problem with it. If he won’t change his mind, toss him!

Best to get out while you can. He won’t change, and if you somehow convince him to spend less time with her he will just resent you. Let them have each other.

Sounds like the best friend has a crush on him

Wow, you're so petty! you don't have to like your friends partner

CONGRATULATIONS!!!! You've been nominated for our 56th annual 'I TOTALLY missed the point' award!! Please call your local Karen for ticket details.

What's the point then? tell me? The way i see it is someone doesn't get along with their friends partner so the partners 'binning' him, many people don't get along with their mother in laws but are they ending the relationship? I don't have anything in common with males so whenever my friends get bfs i don't really interact with them so they think i hate them

I don't know what the point is. Not everyone likes other people, and they don't even need any reason. I think it's all good.

Uhm dude she is the partner! Her partners friend is being an asshole to her because she doesn't like her.

So don't hang around her. Problem solved. It's his friend

I'm a man, i don't have male friends because i don't have anything in common with them so if my friend got a male partner I wouldn't really hang out with him and he'd probably think i hate him

Mungolikecandy 19

I hated my best friends girlfriend (later his wife) because I could see she was a self-absorbed lying individual who used people and then threw them away. I knew he did not see her as this assessment of the woman he loved and so I gave him support in his relationship knowing he would need it in the future. She is soon to be his ex-wife having nearly driven him to suicide by her behaviour. As a best friend, you sometimes have to step back and let them make mistakes as trying to prove they are making a mistake is not your job. It sounds like she wants more than just a best friend role to your boyfriend.

seeing no problem. Not everyone has to like you. You don't have to spend time with her. He does like you, so why do you care if his friend does? Just accept it

I'm with you. Nobody has a right to anyone else's friendship, and a requirement that all friendships in a romantic relationship must be shared is controlling. Who I associate with is my business

You think his BEST FRIEND not liking her won’t be a problem for that relationship?

I fucking hate my best friend's wife, I have since I met her 10 years ago before they even got together. I havent been quiet about it either. It hasn't had any effect on our friendship or their relationship. We just don't hang out at their house.

I think it'll only be a problem if you make it one. Or do you have co-dependancy and trust issues that don't allow your partner freedom, space, independance, etc.?

You've got issues if you can't handle your b/f's friend who happens to be a girl...

It doesn’t sound like she’s the one who has issues with “the other woman.”

She probably doesn’t “hate” you. Hate is an intensively strong word. I grew up without a mom, around all guys, and ended up having major anxiety to this day whenever I try to hang around other girls. It SUCKS. It IS stupid and there’s no good reason for it, and everybody deals with different situations or feelings or barriers in different ways... bottom line, if you like the guy, maybe try to look a little deeper into his friend’s shoes. I’ve never hated my guy friends’ girls, but I’ve never been able to bring myself to hang out with them. And that’s how I am. Good luck