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By  Chazzster  |  20

OP, I can see a little of both sides. After going with you for 5 years, his girlfriend breaks up because she’s finally discovered she’s a lesbian. Obviously he felt betrayed and possibly used. Outing you to your family was wrong, but people do things when they feel hurt and possibly betrayed.

And from your side, you finally come to this realization about your sexuality and break up with your long time boyfriend who betrays you by outing you to your conservative family. Of course it’s not entirely him but your unaccepting family who are actually causing you the most grief. One way to look at this is the cat is out of the bag now with your family and you no longer have to dread the revelation - because it’s here now. OP life is usually long, give your parents a while to process this revelation. They may come around to acceptance. In the meanwhile try to find support where you can.

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By  Chazzster  |  20

OP, I can see a little of both sides. After going with you for 5 years, his girlfriend breaks up because she’s finally discovered she’s a lesbian. Obviously he felt betrayed and possibly used. Outing you to your family was wrong, but people do things when they feel hurt and possibly betrayed.

And from your side, you finally come to this realization about your sexuality and break up with your long time boyfriend who betrays you by outing you to your conservative family. Of course it’s not entirely him but your unaccepting family who are actually causing you the most grief. One way to look at this is the cat is out of the bag now with your family and you no longer have to dread the revelation - because it’s here now. OP life is usually long, give your parents a while to process this revelation. They may come around to acceptance. In the meanwhile try to find support where you can.

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  nemcali  |  33

People do not decide to become gay or lesbians. They are born this way! If OP comes from a very conservative family, it probably took her a while to accept who she is and probably hoped until now that it was a temporary phase etc.

By  bloopaloop  |  27

So your ex is a d-bag. Besides that, did your family throw you out and disown you? Prefacing them with “religious and conservative” implies that was what you want readers to expect, but are you giving them a bad wrap? I bet they took it ok.

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  RichardPencil  |  28

It's doesn't look good for her either way.

If she knew she was gay, it was cruel of her to jerk this guy around for five years. If five years with this guy made her realize she's gay, what does that say about him?

By  MelanieIsGreat  |  17

What a dirtbag... i hate people that find fulfillment in being bitter and ruining lives to make theirs better. Idk if it's your thing, but know that according to Dante the 8th and worst circle of hell is reserved for betrayers...

By  Yusuf Nyle  |  2

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By  vchan  |  17

There is also another possibility : he outed you by mistake, either he didn’t know you hadn’t told everyone or he was so upset he didn’t watch his words.

I did that once about a family member : everyone around me seemed to know, i grew up knowing and didn’t see a problem with it so during a dinner a few years ago I said something like « is my (female family’s member) girlfriend also alright with it? » (i would have asked the same for an hetero couple). Sadly i learned that she wasn’t « out » per se....... i felt soooooo bad about it. I phoned the person i dined with a few hours later, explaining my mistake and asking not to spread the information further. Seems like she said nothing so far.
I don’t like this family member (because of her personality not because of her sexuality) but i still feel bad about that years later.