Intruders!

By wtf babe? - 29/06/2020 14:02

Today, I came home to find my husband allowed several of his family members to move in without even asking me. His parents are in the spare room, his brother and wife are in my den and they expect me to make my daughter share her bed with two older cousins. I’m ready to take the kids and leave. FML
I agree, your life sucks 2 714
You deserved it 167

Same thing different taste

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Why did they need to live with you? Are they all homeless, or was it out of convenience when the lockdown came into effect? It was pretty disrespectful of him to go behind your back like that, so you need to sit down with him, and find out why he didn't say anything. Also, your daughter shouldn't have to share a bed with anyone, cousins or not, especially if they're older. If his family are homeless, you and he will have to compromise, and work out the best way to keep everyone safe and happy. If they are there out of convenience, or some other reason, kick him out along with them, and don't let him back until he realizes the risk he put you and your kids in during the middle of a global pandemic, and apologizes for his actions.

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Why did they need to live with you? Are they all homeless, or was it out of convenience when the lockdown came into effect? It was pretty disrespectful of him to go behind your back like that, so you need to sit down with him, and find out why he didn't say anything. Also, your daughter shouldn't have to share a bed with anyone, cousins or not, especially if they're older. If his family are homeless, you and he will have to compromise, and work out the best way to keep everyone safe and happy. If they are there out of convenience, or some other reason, kick him out along with them, and don't let him back until he realizes the risk he put you and your kids in during the middle of a global pandemic, and apologizes for his actions.

Agreed. You and the kids shouldn't leave, everyone else should - including your husband. That is a huge betrayal of him not including you and your kids (they should have a say too) in this decision. If they won't leave willingly, consult with a lawyer to ascertain your rights in this situation and what you should do next.

samomaha 17

Tell the inlaws and your husband that they can get air mattresses for whoever, and that either the guest room or the den reverts back to your use. Floors are fine for sleeping on!

Sounds like that's part of his plan. If he gets you and the kids to leave, his extended family will not be so cramped. He's a genius for letting you think that's your idea to leave with the kids.

I would move out until he kicks the family out. Did they have an emergency and needed a temp home? He's a douche.

oneonta 8

sounds like he needs to learn to communicate (at ALL)

... and that's the moment you kick them all out and enjoy all the free space.

We need an update, OP. What happened next?