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By ouch / Friday 16 September 2011 05:21 / United States
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Obviously you don't know what an abortion is. It's turning back.

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  LiveLaughFML  |  10

it'll be worth it when you're cradling the bundle of joy in your arms, the bundle of joy that came out of your stomach or vagina that was a pain equivilance to that of breaking twenty bones. ;)

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  fthislyfe  |  22

43: Yes it is! Even more. My mom once described: It's so painful that you want to grab a knife and cut your own belly to take that out! She couldn't even feel her vagina being cut. Because the pain was too much it was nothing compared to it. Good luck

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  marpay  |  11

54- depends on where you live. Some states will allow them to be done up to 24 weeks. Unless there are major complications and then they can do them after the 24 week mark.

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  ikickgingers  |  15

You should have adopted a ginger kid.

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  drawmesunshine  |  17

61 is right about the complications. I had a friend once you was into her third trimester when she learned of some severe developmental problems, and she had to decide between an abortion and a child with special needs. Late abortions are possible, but only under certain circumstances.

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  Marcella1016  |  26

80 - That might apply just to males, not to both sexes. I could be wrong, but I imagine passing a kidney stone doesn't feel like breaking 20 bones... On a related note, I've heard somewhere that the closest a guy can feel to labor pains is that pain he gets when kicked in the gonads. True??

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OP it really just depends on how you think it is going to be. Some women say it hurts like hell and some say it was bearable. If you go into the hospital thinking your going to go through the worst pain of your life then that is what you're going to experience. I gave birth to an eight and a half pound baby at 5'3 105lbs pre-pregnancy and for me it wasn't that bad. My labor only lasted four hours and I was induced. He had the cord wrapped around his neck which is common. When it was all over I actually wished it lasted longer then it did, maybe it will with my second lol. My friend didn't do as much as I did to prepare her body for labor and was going in expecting something awful, she already knew she wanted the epidural. She labored for 18+hours and ended up needing a c-section. It may sound really stupid but trust me it really matters how you look at things. It won't last that long and your beautiful baby will be so worth it!! Just keep thinking about what s/he is going too look like, how big, what color of hair if any, chubby or not/ eye color: what s/he will sound like, if they are going to cry right when they are born or not. It will fly by and before you know it the nurse will be telling you that you're ready to push!! Oh and when you do push it's not really like pushing a poo out it's like doing a sit up or a cannon ball

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  Randuhh_17  |  4

Abortion for your own selfishness is wrong, and I'll just leave it at that. And it is said that passing a kidney stone, is second to giving birth. A kick in the groin might bring a guy down, but don't compare it to birth. As for what your sister says, don't listen, thats what an epidural is for.

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  PennyLane27  |  30

Not too far off!!! It's kind of like that one shit that's really ginormous and you have to work at for a little while, but when you do get it out you feel incredibly relieved and accomplished lol. Get an epidural, you'll be fine. :o)

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  remz89  |  3

It isn't that bad, you just feel extremely constipated. I just gave birth a month ago and had a natural delivery. All you got to pray for is not tearing... I found the stitches to be way more painful then actual labor....

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  Boredumm  |  6

Wish i hadnt read this my baby is due in 6 days... Maybe you should try water birth if you can, i heard it makes it less painful, and more soothing

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  jhashj  |  0

That study was probably done by a man who, like all men, are incapable of having a child. I've had 2 kidney stones and a 7lb 7oz baby with an epidural. The 6 hours before the epidural that I was in a force labor were the most painful hours of my life. I've fallen out of a moving car, had two broken bones, and have fallen down a flight of stairs and landed on my face... Still no comparison to the pain of contractions and a thining cervix

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Seriously? My daughter is ginger and she is gorgeous, everybody says so. People stop me in the street and tell me how beautiful she is, and that her hair is amazing. Don't be a dick.

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  rubberduckie94  |  13

i Gagree 45 hours of labor before i got an epidural then 3 hours later dr told me he was going to give me a c section that he figured i would be one the first time he saw me. its all in how you look at pain. its really not that bad.

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  NandaPanda  |  22

96- I heard it was like trying to pee out something the size of a lemon, for a guy... I'm not sure which is correct, but the lemon theory sounds more accurate to me because it sounds like someone probably did a ratio-type-thingy to figure it out...

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  elliebelly2  |  2

If you use the epidural then your just a scared little bitch. The same way you had the balls to have sex and make that baby, then you should have balls to push that baby through NATURALLY!

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  CrazyManNo9  |  29

My wife had an epidural and has had back problems ever since. Our son is 30. Of course, it was done poorly by some intern. Make sure the person has experience instead of experiment.

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  morgan020  |  0

I didnt have any issues with mine except I had several contractions while they were doing it and that was an interesting experience. Didn't hurt, well any more than the contractions did. I was just glad when it was all over and I could get some rest.

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  krazy_glu3  |  0

Had two epidurals. Didn't feel a thing. The only part that hurt was when they ripped the tape off afterwards ha. It's not that bad, I've had two kids and it was easy. Second one wasn't as fun bc I woke up at 2-3am with horrible contractions. Not gunna lie, that shit HURTS. Get the epidural and you'll have NO problems :]

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I had an epidural and it slowed my labor. I was having contractions for 17 fucking hours and they had to give me ephedrine twice to speed my heart back up to a safe speed... Second baby I had no epidural, contractions for 3 hours, pushed for less than 10 minutes and healed faster after... This was at a GOOD hospital

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  killerkiss92  |  8

I had a natural birth and I slept through most of it had my LO 5 months ago it's not as bad as most woman make it out to be I was scared until it actually happened and was surprised how well it went

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  brrarm  |  17

The worst horror stories of childbirth you are told when you are 4+ months pregnant! They couldn't tell them to you at other times when you could be just curious!

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  ImaginaryFoe  |  0

I don't think the sister was all that bad. Maybe she's just trying to mentally prepare her. This can't be the first OP has heard about childbirth being painful.

By  muchagente  |  5

but most women forget it soon afterwards. those who don't get no second children and die out in a slow, evolutionary process. if this thought is no consolation, then nothing will be.

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  Dalliance  |  4

Your first point is true. The memory of the full extent of the pain is dulled; it's a documented fact you can look up. But even women who go through it and know that the pain is extremely bad still often have second children. Especially back when birth control options were much less effective. But OP, you can take some comfort in the fact that the experience is different for everyone, people have different levels of pain tolerance, and modern drugs are a huge help.

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  ICaughtFire  |  4

I've always thought about it as "If that many other woman can do it, and still live, then it can't be that bad." I'm not denying that it's painful, I'm just saying that if it was truly unbearable, women wouldn't go through with it. I've never had children, though, so I can't say for sure.

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  akayc32  |  0

15, I didn't understand that when I was pregnant. My daughter was born via c-sec due to complications after I'd been in labor for 18 hours with only 2 hours under an epi. The only pain I remember is the recovery from the c-sec. It's mostly scary because it's unknown.

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  a_nutritionist  |  10

@25 no. people still give birth in situations of poverty, knowing they cant care for themselves let alone a child. a lot of people dont think ahead about consequences, then they end up in the shit.

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  a_nutritionist  |  10

ill spell it out for you: "I'm just saying that if it was truly unbearable, women wouldn't go through with it." people dont think about consequences, just the positives. how do you not make the obvious link?

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You can chose to get one, but since theyre normally done im emergency situations once you get a c section any children you have in the future have to be delivered in the same way. No natural childbirth.

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  radarie  |  6

Nowadays, if you let yourself recover enough between having children, you may be able to have a baby naturally even after having a c-section. Giving birth scares me, though. I've had to watch a few videos in college... And every time I tense up, and basically hyperventilate/want to throw up.

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  DocBastard  |  38

Wow, there is always so much misinformation strewn about in these medical-related FMLs. Hooboy, where to start? Cheesecakee - you can indeed request a C-section. bananabuttercup - you can still do vaginal delivery after a C-section. Google "VBAC" if you want to know more.

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Caesarian usually has a longer recovery process and is way more painful AFTER the baby is out than the process of vaginal delivery whereas the pain is during labor and you recover pretty damn fast. Women survived childbirth for centuries, we're still here;) OP, don't you worry, once that little bundle of joy is in your arms, you'll see that the hard work and pain was worth it :)

By  perdix  |  29

You let one bone in and then it feels like breaking 20? That's some return on investment! Did your sister also read how many broken bones it feels like to send said child to college? Even a state school must feel like getting kneecapped and a crushed skull.

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