By thatsfine - 14/07/2013 22:52 - United Kingdom - Guildford
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It could be worse. He could've been the father? Maybe she was just trying to lighten the mood. Albeit poor timing
As one life leaves, another life joins... My condolences towards OP, but now OP will have another beautiful soul joining OP's family. Maybe OP's sister was trying to bring up everyone's emotions. Again, I give my condolences, there is no worser feeling than losing the one you love so dearly, but life will go on. Life will throw curves at all of us, but it's our job to overcome these curves and become a more powerful soul.
My husband and I found out I was pregnant the day his aunt was killed in a car accident. We flew in for her funeral and told his parents (privately) that I was pregnant just before we left. It did bring them joy in a difficult time. BUT I never would have announced to everyone at the funeral that I was pregnant, which is what it sounds like OP's sister did. We named our daughter after her great aunt. She has a very special guardian angel watching out for her. I hope OP's future niece or nephew will have the same.
Maybe she thought everyone would take it as the cycle of life of something... A loved one passed away but another one is on the way? I don't know, but I'd like to give her the benefit of doubt. Maybe if it's a boy, she'll name it after the OP's husband as a good gesture.
20- I agree with you. After a loved one passes away, it can be comforting to know that a new life is beginning. My cousin found out she was pregnant shortly after the loss of her sister, and she named the baby after her. Our entire family felt blessed when my cousin's baby was born after suffering through a tragic loss.
While the unborn child is not directly hit when a woman is hit in the face, the shock/stress of the situation can cause undue stress to the child. Also, any number of things can go wrong in this situation... She could fall, suffer a complication (i.e. Seizure or loss of consciousness), etc which could cause negative effects to the unborn child. I hope that clears things up. I did not mean that the unborn child would be attacked or harmed directly.