By Anonymous - 14/05/2016 12:39 - United States - Houston
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There should be some law that will let you sue her and get that money back.
Do people turn psycho all of a sudden? You did date her at a point.
But why does that delay your wedding? I understand that losing the dress (especially like this) is terrible, but in the end, it's just a piece of clothing - what should matter is that the two of you want to spend the rest of your lives together. Don't give your ex what she wanted, have your wedding and be happy with each other while she rots in jail.
I can imagine the fiancé might feel a little unsafe and as a result may irrationally blame OP for the attack. Honestly, I'd be surprised if anything traumatic happening during the - highly stressful - time leading up to a wedding didn't result in some extreme reaction.
It takes forever to get fitted for a dress, have the dress made, and then get fitted for alterations. I'm a bridesmaid in a wedding next month and for just my dress the process took three months, and my dress actually came in a month ahead of the projected ship date. The bride picked her dress in September and went in for the final fitting just last month. If OP's fiancee wants a proper dress -- which I'm assuming she does since she already had one -- she can't just pop into a store and buy one off the rack. Granted she may decide she can live without it and buy a dress that can be bought without need for alterations, but after going through that long process and spending all that money, I wouldn't want to.
Another possibility is that they may not have the money in their budget for another dress right now, since OP did say it was an expensive dress. Depending on their situation, they might've fudged the budget a little bit more in order for her to get the dress she really wanted. If that is the case, they may have to save up more for a dress, as well as calm down from the emotional side of the situation
It would delay it because it takes a long time to get fitted/get a dress altered. My fittings were delayed because I live out of state from where the dress shop was (the wedding was in Michigan and I live in Ohio) I can't imagine what she is going through and I would cry if that happened to me. I hope OP's fiancée can get through this and everything will work out.
That sucks so badly. Maybe do a quickie court house wedding until she can afford another dress for the wedding she wants?
It's still a wedding, if you want the big day and you want to be married they don't have to happen at the same time. I'm in the Military and because we're so far from our family, a lot of my friends have done this. They don't want to wait to get married, so they do as soon as possible, then when they can go on leave they have their "wedding" with their friends and families. It's an actual alternative that works.
Maybe do a gofundme to try to raise funds for a new wedding dress. That way the wedding won't be delayed. If you had a $1 for every f your life.
As I said in another reply, a wedding dress isn't something you can just buy off the rack. You have to be measured, then the dress has to be made, then you have to be fitted for alterations. It's a months-long process and it doesn't sound like they have months. Even if they crowd-funded for a new one there likely wouldn't be enough time.