By Ari - 16/01/2013 06:36
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Recovering alcoholics aren't supposed to keep alcohol in the house. Hence, the better solution is this: Every year you open it, don't say a word, don't even say "thank you." IMMEDIATELY dump the bottle and throw it away, and if she's there, maintain eye contact with her while doing this. (Bet she won't keep it if you're maintaining it.) And when she complains to everyone else, make sure to say "I wasn't trying to be rude, it was just for my well-being."
Congrats on being sober for 3 years! Write a passive aggressive note to your mother in law, place the note in a giftbox with the three bottles of champagne and tell her to stop wasting money. Or maybe she's just hoping you'd regift it to her.
Can anyone give me a concrete example of being passive aggressive? I know the defintion, but if someone were to ask me, is this or this situation PA, or how can you characterise PA in an example, I'm stumped. Any takers? I've always wondered, and searched for a true example.
Actually what the mother-in-law did is passive aggressive. She is giving a gift - obstensibly a nice thing to do - but giving something that she knows is a harmful gift the person won't want. It's a nasty thing to do, but if they call her on it she could say she forgot or had good intentions. It doing something hurtful, but not openly or honestly; feeling aggression, but showing it in ways that aren't obvious. Eg, being mad at your boyfriend for never doing the dishes, but instead of telling him so, you "forget" to record his favourite show instead.
That's just so rude, find her biggest fear. Is it spiders? Spider socks? Not good enough? Say hello mr fluffy the tarantula.
Spider wasps. They exist and I am terrified of them. They eat spiders. And their nickname? Tarantula hawks. They attack my face in the summer...while I'm in my bathroom. For the past three summers. And they have to be triple tapped or I swear to god they're zombies.