By lamsolonely - 12/05/2013 04:35 - United States
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12- Like many others, I could have lost my v-card much earlier than when I did, but the "opportunities" weren't girls I really liked, and I was petrified of getting someone pregnant at 14. When I was 19, I went for it, but not because of peer pressure, I didn't give a shit what anyone thought about my sex life. It felt right then, and that was a good enough personal reason for me then. :)
I think it sucks that having "high standards" is seen as a bad thing. What's wrong with waiting until you've found the right guy or girl? What's wrong with wanting someone who you are both physically and mentally compatible with? Why is it ok for people to be picky with their food or their clothing, but not with the people they have sex with?
OP clearly has morals and is waiting for the right person. Not because their standards are too high. Sorry OP it is sad your 13 year old brother is not a virgin. I waited until I was 18 and with someone I really loved before I had sex. Just ignore the idiocy and be you and keep with your choices of waiting
Having had sex when I was 11, I have no problems seeing a 13 year old having had sex as well. It wasn't anywhere near the same quality sex as it is when you turn 16-17 though.
36- Elmo, just because you were 14 then doesn't mean you don't have right to think it may have been too young Now. Life experiences and time can teach us a lot about ourselves, and in growing up and learning, our opinions grow and change too, hopefully. If anything, I'm more likely to listen to you Because you speak from experience. :) But kudos for both being safe about it, and still being with your partner, sounds like you made a good selection. :)
I lost my virginity at 17. I still think I was young, but I was mentally prepared and my boyfriend is someone worthy. There was some pressure from my girl-friends (who were 13 and 15 when they lost theirs), but I did want to do it with my boyfriend. I did a lot of research and we used protection. I don't think there's a certain age that people should start having sex, everyone's ready for it at different times, but I do think people should only do it with someone who's really special to them. I can't imagine being with anyone other than my boyfriend, but my girl-friends' numbers of sexual partners are in the 20's.
45, ELEVEN??? I assistant coach a girls softball team of 11 year olds and I know that they and any other 11 year old I know are certainly not mature enough! Had you even gotten your period yet at that age? I was playing club penguin when I was 11... I don't mean to shame you because at 11 of course you wouldn't understand, but you seem to be condoning it which I will have to disagree with you on.
#151- some people feel losing your virginity is a personal opinion of what sex is. For example a person of any sexual orientation might feel that losing your virginity is oral or any kind of sexual context. Others feel that losing your virginity is the breaking of the hymen either throught the use of genitalia, toys, etc..
I agree with you #4. In my own personal opinion, I believe that because you can only give your virginity once it is one of the most intimate and precious gifts you can ever give to your partner. So choose wisely. I had always felt this way about my virginity and I wanted to give it to my future husband only. Sadly this precious gift was stolen from me when I was repeatedly and violently raped by my ex boyfriend over the span of four days at the age of 17. My parents gave me a promise/purity ring when I was 13 and I treasured it greatly. Not because I wanted to please my parents in that aspect, but because I genuinely felt that way myself. After the rape I felt as though I didn't deserve to wear it any longer because I didn't feel pure. I felt extremely ashamed and filthy. It took me a very long time to realize that because I did not choose to lose my virginity and had absolutely no say in the matter, that I was still pure and I considered myself to still be a virgin in a way. I chose to retain my beliefs and personal convictions and did not have sex with anyone else after that just because I was not technically a virgin anymore. When I met my now husband I was finally able to choose to give him my 'virginity'. And that felt pretty damn good to me. Now, just because I have these beliefs about virginity does not mean that I judge anyone who does not have the same beliefs as I do. I'm perfectly ok with anyone who differs from me in their personal choices. Because that's what it is, their personal choice. And I respect that. And I don't think it's right to judge or put anyone down just because they are, or are not, a virgin. That's just silly.
Don't mind them. Getting laid should never be a competition.
I really hope the 13 year old is kidding. I doubt you're equipped to deal with the possible consequences of sex at that age.