By Anonymous - 11/11/2010 01:43 - United States
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Some people don't know the facts about the surgery. In order to even be considered for the surgery, you have to be at least 100 pounds over weight. Maybe the guy is just a superficial prick who wants a super model instead of a normal weighted women. She may be slightly over weight but not enough for the procedure. People that just assume she is obese is just making a jack ass of themselves.
bariatric surgery is only for ppl with bmi over 40. if you are that fat then you should ask your doc. if not then the benefits do not justify the risks. but as any medicine you should not be buying it without your own docs advice. Don't ask a bariatric service if you need one. Thats like asking a barber if you need a haircut.
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FHL for being with someone who thinks it's OK to be obese and doesn't want to do anything about it or accept help when it's presented - especially for fucking free.
I didn't go look it up to find out what it was, I looked for it on Wikipedia because it's a generally accepted source of knowledge and a viable form of proof which I hoped would put to rest the ignorant replies to my comment. Sadly, I was mistaken, as I seem to have incurred more. I already knew what the surgery was, but rather than say, "I know it's this because I know it's this" I posted what a 3 second Google search could have procured for the ignorant fucks replying to my god damn comment, you fucking twats.
Zachary, your English is just fine. However, I disagree with your original comment. To all the commenters out there who may not trust Zachary's knowledge or wikipedia, OP was talking about bariatric surgery, which is obesity surgery. That is fact and indisputable. Bariatric surgery has numerous potential complications, depending on the type of surgery. I don't have tine to explain all of them, but suffice it to say some of them are devastating. The surgery, no matter what the type, is neither free nor a magic bullet. Major lifestyle changes are necessary for any type of bariatric surgery.
Doc is, of course, exactly right. In addition to what he said, the American Society for Bariatric Surgery has some pretty specific guidelines about who qualifies for the procedure. (And no, I did not get that info on wikipedia.) Having a few "extra curves" doesn't qualify you, and if the husband isn't a total idiot, he'd find that out while doing his research. I'm guessing this gift wasn't out of the blue. It's likely that OP struggles with her weight, and maybe her self-esteem too. His gift was probably well-intentioned, if a bit insensitive. Maybe he should offer to join her in a weight-loss routine, or fitness routine if he isn't overweight as well. Healthy cooking classes and a fun physical exercise program would be enjoyable for them to do together. Although it may be tougher for him than just paying a bill, and tougher for her than going under the knife, it could be the start of a long-term healthier lifestyle, as well as a way to spend quality time together to strengthen their marriage.
Since when is wikipedia a, "generally accepted source of knowledge and a viable form of proof..." Seriously, try to use wikipedia as a source in a scholastic paper, or any type of research paper, see what happens. I'm not saying wikipedia isn't a decent way to get a general idea about something, but to claim it's an, "accepted source...." is just wrong.
o my gosh. seriously! nobody cares! you can't all be mr im so right and everybody else is wrong and duh that's the way life is! so get a life outside of a website for people to rant about how much their lives suck and stop being such bratty know it alls! gosh! you guys don't even know op! move on! it is so pathetic that 36 people actually care enough about impressing people they don't know to continue to waste time on this! in fact, what the heck am I doing here? goodbye and if you have any life at all you will discontinue posting to this discussion!
@110 They? They who? The only they who is even remotely relevant here would be the FML Staff, and I don't recall them ever telling us not to use Wikipedia. I'm assuming you mean "they" as in the people who grade your papers, but I'm pretty sure that they also tell you "2" use proper spelling and grammar. Since you aren't following "their" rules, you shouldn't be enforcing them. @121 First of all, calm down. The comments section on FML was made for commenting. If we weren't supposed to comment here, there wouldn't be a special place designed for it.
curvy is not fat. Kim Kardashian has curves. Scarlett johansson has curves. Beth dito is obese. people in that weight range are obese not fucking curvy. I'm sick of fat chicks being called curvy, seriously wtf. fat is fat man! it's not curves- it's fucking rolls of flab!
Stupid phone added my comment before I was done typing it. @Mr_Zachary how do you think the gift was free? Their money is most likely combined since they're married. There is no way to know if OP is really obese to need such a drastic surgery. I think the situation is FYL for OP and her husband. OP for having such a clueless man and FYL for the husband no longer being attracted to his wife.
@ mr Zachary: I gave you a thumbs down because you sound like an arrogant jerk, not because of anything else. Also, yes, I agree that most of the time wiki has correct information, however, there is a reason that you aren't allowed to cite it in academic situations.
No, it's a stupid gift, maybe she's barely overweight. This type of surgery presents risks during and post-op. Don't insult people based on assumptions as she didn't explicitly mention she's actually obese, the husband may have a warped view of ideal weight. It makes you appear sort of dumb when you act like an asshole.
Bariatric surgery is hardly anything like a haircut, a new wardrobe or a complete makeover. You also cannot compare it with free liposuction or a free boob job; it is more serious than cosmetic surgery. If OP's husband is as shallow as you make him sound, then she should just leave him.
Having surgery won't automatically keep her around longer. First of all, bariatric surgery has a very high risk of serious complications, including death. Secondly, if she is obese, she will still have excess plaque built up in her arteries and will most likely have an inactive lifestyle and/or eat too much unhealthy foods. That can kill you weather you're fat or skinny. The only way to definitively prolong your lifespan if you are obese is to change your lifestyle for the better. Surgery is not a magic answer to everything.