By girly - 12/04/2012 04:06 - United States - Canton
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#64 I agree with you. I think OP's girlfriend has a seriously high sex drive and poor OP needs a rest. I also don't understand why everyone is thumbing him down. Just because he's a guy he always needs to stick it in a girl if she's willing to spread her legsto him?
I'm pretty sure most girlfriends would rather communicate with their boyfriend instead of constantly having pointless sex, and not wanting to have sex with a girl doesn't make a guy less of a man, I honestly thinks it takes more of a man to be able to have a meaningful conversation with his girlfriend. Soooo yeah.
bigmackin35 - Yes, there's an issue with that. The site posting rules explicitly state that txt language is forbidden. You would have noticed that had you bothered to read them. Yes, FORBIDDEN. That sounds like you have an issue to fix, friend. And while you're fixing that, try some punctuation while you're at it. Using it makes you sound much less illiterate.
The hell? If a guy says this to a girl, and she says she's not in the mood, or just wants to spend quality time with him, no one would complain, no one would insult the girl telling her it's her responsibility to do it. Not every man has a sky high sex drive, and there's nothing wrong with that. OP, don't let these hypocritical fools bring you down. If your girlfriend doesn't understand you want more than to just fuck, leave her and find someone that does understand you, or you'll be unhappy in the future.
@79: If a girl refused to ~put out~, she'd get called an ice queen, frigid bitch, prude cunt, etc. This really shouldn't be about gender, it should be about people respecting others' spaces. If somebody doesn't want to have sex, regardless of their gender, then that should be respected. Unfortunately, both men and women have shade thrown at them whenever they don't put out for somebody else. So I would disagree that women are respected when they refuse to have sex, because in this society that's empirically untrue. But I do agree that it's not right to force or coerce people into something intimate.
216, Correct, women do get labelled if they refuse sex...regularly. Not in once off instances, unless by strangers - in which case, who listens to them anyway? However to extend on your comment, while someones choice not to engage in sex should be respected, so should the choice of the other individual. If they aren't happy with this arrangement they shouldn't be judged for choosing to move on, sadly however they are. Nobody is free of judgement sadly, when it comes to adult relationships there are few people who don't behave like small children.
Nobody should be disrespected for their sexual choices, provided they're responsible. But if someone wants to have sex and the person they're courting doesn't, then sex should not be happening. If it's a recurring problem then the person who desires sex should leave on account of there being an irreconcilable difference in values, provided it's that big a deal to them. That, or they can just make use of their hands until both parties consent to sex. But I don't think there should be an equal consideration of desires when it comes to whether or not sex is gonna happen. Just because somebody wants sex doesn't mean the other party should feel obligated to consider. Consent is cardinal, so again, I think the best choice in a predicament like that is to either hold off until consent is achieved or just find somebody more suited to your sexual appetite or what have you.
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Close one, she almost found out you are gay or cheating (or both.) Sorry, dude, live with the double-standard. If a guy turns down sex, the alarms go haywire!
Sorry 10, I need to clarify my statement. You're right I'm a lazy arsehole who can't be bothered to have sex! You've opened my eyes. A more accurate statement I can make is that sometimes I'm just not in the mood, or I have just had a wank when the girlfriend turns up out of the blue...
Apparently, someone isn't a cuddler. Yet another individual who doesn't get that sometimes when you're in the mood, it doesn't mean your partner is. She should respect that rather than making fun of you like an immature child, especially after having been with you for 2 years.