By Anonymous - 29/06/2016 14:42 - United States - Pardeeville
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It sucks having a good heart. We even worry about the assholes. FYL OP =/
So pick up the phone and call if you are that worried about him... It may not change his behavior, but it might settle your fears.
Sounds simple, but most of the time it's more complicated than just that... The OP must be thinking of the what ifs : what if I call, he doesn't answer and I'm left wondering ? What if I'm mistaken and he resumes the abuse because I reached out to him ? Plus, with this kind of relationships, it can feel embarassing to still be worrying for toxic people ; so yeah, unfortunately not as easy as "Oh well I'll just call and check"
#11: I grew up in an abusive home. It sucks, but there it is. My grandfather went crazy and tried to murder my family. I hate his memory for what he did, but I can't let that hate consume me. The OP is obviously hurting, and there are very few options to heal that hurt. Calling his dad is one of them.
You are right. The person that posted the response before this. Either does not understand or does not have the ability to put themselves in someone else's shoes, and empathize. Nice of you to respond in this manner. The OP might have seen your response and appreciated your input.