Who in the hell are you to tell someone you don't even know whether or not they deserve a child? More importantly, who the hell are you to tell someone what life decisions to make? It's more idiotic to take in a child who you won't love completely than to do fertility treatments. Children can tell when they're not as loved as others, so adopting might be a poor decision for the OP to make. Besides, how do you know that the OP would waste all of her money if she did have a child? How do you know the birth mother won't change her mind if the OP tries adoption? How do you know if she's tried adoption and been rejected? Unless you can give proof of what you said, you have no place to tell other people how to live their lives.

#413 You don't have to be a prick. This is so uncalled for, you don't know the OP, you are no one to judge them and call them an idiot. How exactly does this OP have anything to do with what is wrong with our society? What's wrong with it is people like you being rude for no reason. Clearly you don't understand that maternal need to want a child so bad and to do anything you can to have that child. You are nothing to tell someone that you have never met that they don't deserve a child. If OP is doing anything and everything to have that child, then they deserve it more than you ever would. You are terrible to say things like this to someone who is clearly going through emotional turmoil. OP doesn't need your judgement on top of it. And agreed #417.

It's not as simple as 'I want to adopt a child' *Someone hands you a baby* The adoption process can be just as heartbreaking and miserable as multiple failed attempts to conceive! There are no rules on who can make a baby but a million and one rules to adopt/foster..

413 - You're a complete idiotic jerk. The others said it best but it's none of your damn business what others do with THEIR money. If OP wants to spend that much to try and get pregnant then she has every right. Get over it.

I love you. Will you marry me?

Agreed, #414. Also, I wonder if any of the posters telling OP to adopt would actually adopt in real life. Considering what I've seen many people like them do, they probably wouldn't.

I'm adopting my second child

That's pretty cool. I'd like to adopt one day, but I'm a tad too young right now.

Its going to be a little while. We're about to have our first, but we want two. And we want a girl. So to help a child that needs a home, and make sure we get a girl, we're going to adopt. I'm excited about it

#418: It's wrong of the people who are reproducing who can't provide a roof over a child's head, or food in its mouth, or water in its belly. It isn't wrong of the people who are in a position to have children, who have a good steady home for them. The OP, or anyone in a situation like OP shouldn't have to be responsible for picking up the slack of some irresponsible, careless human being who wasn't thinking when they were impregnated, with the exception of people who were so unfortunately raped.

I agree that the people who are having kids one after another and cant support them are wrong (doh), but that doesnt mean that its okay for people like the OP, who have the means to support how many kids they want, to create another human being and spend hundreds of thousands of dollars to do it when there are million of other people in need of help. This is about their genes. They want kids of their own. Period. This is not about them being able to raise children and other people not bieng able to do that.