Nah, worst case you just bumped up the timeline. If he felt that way he was 100% always going to leave eventually.

And that was the only reasonable choice you left him to make after giving him an ultimatum. Also just to point out 1. You felt like you had to make him choose 2. He chose what's best for him This would have never lasted. It's a red flag, anyone giving you a choice me or them will be left alone. Both of you were in the wrong relationship!

Don’t bluff unless you can afford to lose the bet… In the long run you just forced what was probably going to fail anyway, but you did speed up it’s happening. Hopefully you have a job and child support for your children and will be able to find a new place to live.

I'd say No, you dodged a bullet early on. He obviously didn't want to be around kids, so good you found out sooner rather than later

If you feel the need to make an ultimatum,’the relationship is over, at least as you know it.

Don’t play games like this unless you can afford to lose. I’d walk away too! This is more of a controlling behavior you exhibited and no man wants to play those games. You basically showed him you use a version of blackmail to get what you want. Eff his life for even dating you. Be a grown ass woman and communicate, not hold his life ransom to get what you want. He dodged a large bullet, i’ll say

Your boyfriend is not necessarily obligated to be a stepfather. He might in time willingly with your approval até into that role, but it’s a challenging role, especially if you have multiple kids from past relationships. It’s unfair to demand he take on that role without full knowledge and willing acceptance on both sides of the relationship - especially if you’re not even married yet. Be fully honest with yourself: are you really looking for a life partner for yourself and for him? Or are you looking for a father figure for your kids and someone to be an assistant caretaker? Too often in dating with kids the parent (male or female) is looking for a nanny, not a relationship with the person, and the kids come along too because the relationship is there.

Not necessarily. Has he been slacking on his boyfriend/parental duties? Were you essentially dating a man child? If he wasn't contributing, you're better off.