By Anonymous - 08/09/2013 23:20 - Canada - Toronto
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That's terrible! I hope you have some of them digitally backed up because in the future there won't be a lot of childhood photos she can look upon!
79- Year long project? My parents and I dedicated something redicules like 4.5 years doing the same thing. Regretably (sp), My father then went through every folder and took every picture of me sticking out my tounge or making funny faces (I am an only child and there are alot of them) and burned them to a disc and gave it to every relative, cunning bastard.
I don't think what she did was right, I was merely saying that on the other hand they were pictures of her and she should have some say in what was done with them. However, burning them and hurting her mother was not okay. If she had a problem, then she should have done what I did as a child and put the embarrassing ones in a box and told my mom I didn't want them being shared with the family.
61, I'm a professional photographer. While the pictures are of OP's daughter, they belong to OP. By law, anyone under 18 must have their guardian/parent sign a release form to the photographer, in order to share the pictures, unless the guardian/parent is the one taking the pictures. Therefore, OP legally owns and determines what is done with their pictures, while OP's daughter has zero rights. Unless OP's daughter took her own baby pics (I don't see how that is plausible sixteen years ago or even now) then OP's daughter had no right in what she did.
#122 On top of that, technically your parents legally have control over everything that is yours until you are a legal adult. You could work a job at 16 years of age, save up to buy a car, and legally your parents can take it from you and sell it if they chose to. All this to say that even if OP's daughter somehow took her own baby pictures she still has no right to burn them.
Silly girl!! Babies are supposed to be fat, round and chubby. That's why they call it "baby fat".
My mom spanked me on my 21st birthday. Broke the spoon, too. Some children dont learn from being spanked as a child. My husband is terrified of her now and behaves very well at her house. Sometimes you snap the other kids inline by showing them that you are serous. And you know what, I will never swear in her house again.
I agree! Spanking works better than time out or taking thinks away. Put a little fear into them of what will happen. It straightens their butts out. And the people that spout off that it's child abuse needs a good old fashion ass whooping as well. That's how my kids are being raised. Also on a side note, I am 30 and my mom makes it quite clear I am not too old to get my ass tore up haha.
I don't think she needs to be disciplined. Am I the only one who thinks she should be able to do as she pleases with pictures of herself? Those pictures embarrassed her. Somehow I get the feeling that if she was a adult people would have less of a problem with it.
Here is why I am against spanking: I was never spanked as a child, but I did my best to please my parents, and if I screwed up and made a mistake (usually, children aren't evil, they make mistakes) my parents would talk sternly be disappointed, which I think is punishment enough. Also, if you really need to be hit to understand that you should behave well, or given treats for good grades, then it should say something about you. If you act a certain way only because of consequences (punishments/rewards) instead of, for example, the drive to make the world better, then I feel sorry for you. Sorry your daughter did this OP, she seems troubled, and I hope you find a way to help her.
It doesn't work that way with all kids.Talking sternly to and acting disappointed sometimes makes the kids worse because they can get away with it and just get a "talking to." If talking works with your kids then that's great;if not,tear their ass up.No need to feel sorry for those of us that were "hit" I'm sure we all turned out just fine.
I can't imagine how devastated you must be! maybe send a quick email to everyone who may have any pictures from back then.( friends, family, grandparents etc) I know it won't be the same but better to have some than none :) Good luck