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#59 no! I don't want him coming here, live in Texas! And OP you're husband is a skank-ass. Polygamy is not cute. Did you slap him?

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#59 no! I don't want him coming here, live in Texas! And OP you're husband is a skank-ass. Polygamy is not cute. Did you slap him?

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He "looked lovingly into her eyes". Doesn't seem like he set the mood for a joke to me. I don't see how anyone could consider that a joke. I personally find polygamy extremely offensive, not to mention disgusting.

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At least he asked!! He could have cheated and not cared what you thought, and also he cares enough to ask so STFU!!!

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All the people that say its mormons need to get there facts straight. Learn your history and facts. people are ignorant sometimes

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Asking doesn't make it any better. You get married because you want to be with that one person. It is so disrespectful to ask of you can be with other people. If you don't want to be exclusive then don't get married.

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illigal if you want to make it official with the government not illigal if you do it out unoffically I.e. wedding with no certificate

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Guys, I know it's FML, but in an effort to reduce ignorance, do a little research. Commenting about polygamy in Utah because of the Mormons that live there is very uneducated and makes you look bad. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints has denounced polygamy and any who practice it for over a century. Any more questions feel free to ask me, or other representatives of the church. Mormon.org

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Actually, polygamy has nothing to do with Mormons. It's a loophole found in the religion, but it is in no way praised or necessary.

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Actually, polygamy means having more than one husband or wife at the same time. Polyandry is when a woman has more than one husband and polygyny is when a man has more than one wife.

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A quick linguistics lesson for you: poly - many gamy - marriage andry - man gyny - woman hence: polygamy - many marriage polyandry - many man polygyny - many woman (Yeah, I know that I didn't break down the roots to their basic forms, but it was easier to just rip them from the words I was going for.)

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get your facts straight there buddy. we Normans do no practice polygamy, look in the doctrine and covenants.

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..."try it out"???? Are you serious? This is her marriage. Some people don't take it seriously. It's not a car, you dimwit. You can't take polygamy for a "test drive".

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I'll take that opinion into consideration (sharing love) if OP clarifies that she can have two husbands.

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OP is from the US where polygamy is ILLEGAL, so no, your idea to "try it out" is dumb, besides the fact that polygamy usually serves religious, cultural, or economic purposes not something you experiment with for the hell of it.

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It's a relationship #17, not a workplace statistic. If 2 women are happy sharing 1 man, then that's fine and dandy. They don't need to run out and fetch another man to join the relationship just to avoid looking sexist. I'm as big a fan of feminism as anyone else, but please try not to see sexism in every situation. It makes normal women look crazy.

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Listen dimwit, the fact that I disagree with you does not make me closed-minded. Marriage IS a special relationship. In most places, it's a religious and legal bond that this man entered willingly. "Forsaking all others" is pretty specific. I don't have a problem with any form of polygamy if that's what you're into. But if it's something you believe in so strongly, you discuss it before marriage. You don't spring it on your partner 5 years into a marriage. So no, you don't just "

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Sure, a first date can be equated to a "test-drive", but an actual relationship/marriage involves commitment and is not a test. Although marriage isn't always permanent, it is intended to be. OP's husband didn't say hey honey let's be swingers or something, he suggested polygamy which is serious. Although I think since he said that post-sex he might just be a douche-bag that meant lets swing.

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I think OP's husband might have confused the two terms... I doubt he wanted multiple wives.. He just wanted some extra lovers, hence why this comment came after sex.

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One thing. Marriage these days, usually has nothing to do with religion.. so i don't know what you're talking about 'in most cases'.. Marriage is a way of declaring your love for eachother, to declare to be with eachother for the rest of their lives. It's not religious, as such. It can be seen as religious, if the people are religious, but these days it is less and less so. But, in fairness, polygamy isn't something that you can just 'test out', it is more of a way of living. People that are pol

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@ paperfox I think Ligerie was just commenting on the fact that the OP's husband probably hadn't even considered adding another man into the relationship. From what I've seen, it's generally one man with multiple wives/lovers, and this set-up is hardly ever questioned. If a woman suggested adding more lovers into the mix, she'd probably be decried as a "whore."

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We are talking about marriage, not just multiple partners. Apparently you don't get it! Polygamy means MARRIAGE to more than one person. He isn't saying hey I want to have a bunch of girlfriends, but rather WIVES! I don't know if you come from some fcuked up household where your dad experiments w/ wives but for most of us marriage IS something a little more PERMANENT. Not an experiment. So yes, that is DUMB!

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@theanonimouse - Well, how he's come across isn't terrific either is it? I don't know what it's got to do with if a woman did it or not.. The mans come off as a dick so.

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Thank you number 36! I'm not a feminist, but I do see a double standard in the whole polygamy issue. I realize this is because men have the power to create more babies at a time than a woman, and THAT'S the reason behind polygamy. To create as many children as possible, not to "share Love". I doubt OP's husband has 16 children in mind when he is asking for more wives.

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@jenifer05 I was kind of just talking about polygamy in general. You should know by now that almost anyone who has any connection with this site is insulted, regardless of gender. It's, like, an unwritten rule.

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i agree with you somewhat but with any relationship, if theres going to be more than two respective partners than whats the point of having any relationship at all, having multiple wives/husbands kind of defeats the purpose of marriage

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Re: fleg - I never said she couldn't say no. I'm just saying that yes, you could test of having another woman in the relationship and if you liked it, move out of the country where it's legal and marry there. You can test things out without the real thing. Date, not marry? That kind of thing. And I agree that waiting five years and springing it on her is ridiculous. I'm just saying that some people are told it's sick when it's not and they could actually enjoy multiple partners. Re: lexiBRo

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Closeminded. And the illegal part only applies to the marriage contract itself, which you can't have with more than one person.

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#59: Female-bodied and male-bodied? Your wife: a horse? http://wiki.fandomwank.com/index.php/His_%22wife%22%3F_A_horse.

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i disagree completely with polygamy. I think those of you defending it and those who participate in it will never understand the true bonds of marriage. Marriage should bond one person with another. You should not be bonded with more than one person in marriage. Having more than one friend is different; you're not having sex and committing to a relationship with them for the rest of your life. Having more than one wife or husband is bound to breed jealousy which does not make a happy househ

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which is why i believe you should have every right to marry only one person. but i also think people who don't necessarily feel the same way you do should have the option to practice their beliefs and marry multiple people. i don't think anyone should have the right to tell other people what they can and can't do with their lives, unless what they're doing is negatively affecting others.

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I don't see how polygamy can stay stable. If you can't stay in a relationship with just one person then you probably don't understand how much work love takes. Instead, when you start getting bored of your wives/husbands, you go out to try and find a new one. Other wives/husbands get jealous, which just gets worse. Kids at some point will probably be raised in this environment, which is unstable for them because they see through their parents' example that they must compete for attention. T

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that's only your opinion. how many polygamist relationships have you observed? also, how is that any less stable an environment to raise a kid in than one in which the mother/father/primary caregiver is a serial monogamist (ie multiple marriages/divorces)? do you think divorce should be illegal? what about having children out of wedlock? should we outlaw that, too? or multiple-family households? there are a lot of unstable environments that kids are raised in, but they're not all out

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@#104: I use female-bodied/male-bodied because they aren't cis-gendered and it was easier than trying to define their genders succinctly for people unfamiliar with different types of non-cis-gender. @#105: And I think people who are afraid of polyamory will never truly understand love, but I'm not about to go force everyone to be monogamous because of this. Polygamy has existed for many years and, outside of Western society, it has been very successful. Sure, you can look at some societies an

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I will admit to not understanding polyamory. You say it works because you trust your partner.. trust them to what? Trust that they definitely ARE sleeping with someone else? Maybe you see me as close-minded because I won't look beyond my belief in monogamy because that is how I was raised. I see you as close-minded when you say people who haven't engaged in polyamory don't understand love the way you do. I don't have trust issues with my husband; he goes away on business and goes out drinki

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@ #105 kirby229 THANK YOU!!!! for bringing some light into the darkness!! Im neither married nor have i children and i can still understand what you mean, because that is the NORMAL way of life!! We are humans, we aren't animals who just reproduce for the sake of it, we are supposed to have thoughts and feelings!! OP i simpathize with you but your husband doesnt deserve your love. He's not worth it.

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@#134: I really wish that you'd read my post more carefully, since I answer many of your questions in it already. However, I'll be happy to re-answer them with more detail for you. I say that I trust my partner to _still_love_me_ despite loving someone else and having intimate relationships with them. They can go have loving relationships with other people, but I know that they still love me and that these other relationships aren't replacements for me in any way, shape, or form. I mean

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#141 - I did not expect to see my opinion echoed here, or spoken so well. I'm assuming that the OP meant polyamory and didn't really know what she was talking about (or the husband used the wrong term himself) and thus I am speaking of polyamory, not polygamy. (My opinion on marriage is that it should be in no way recognized by the government, in which case polygamy would no longer be illgeal...if the government, or certain interest groups, seek to deny homosexuals the right to the same lega

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Marriage isn't something you just share with another person. If you can't devote yourself to one person to intimately love, why the hell are you in a relationship at all. Polygamy isn't some freaky sex fad either. You're making another relationship with another woman. Only freaks are into polygamy. It's disgusting to have multiple sex partners and expect your true partner to be alright with that.

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I'm going to separate discussion on polygamy and polyamory, even though you seem not to have done so yourself. So, firstly, about polygamy: You state that "marriage isn't something you just share with another person." Why not? If everyone involved is okay with it, and i mean actually okay with it, not resigned to it, then what's the problem? Why can't you commit to multiple people? Further, historically and cross-culturally, this hasn't exactly been the dominant viewpoint, so I

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As long as you're "sexually liberated" and it's not for religious reasons ("a cult think") then it's okay? Who's close minded now? He's a dick, that's all.

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Yeah man. Lots of people are brainwashed into having a very closed-minded view of sexuality.

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The above ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^. is meant for #68 littlemel4's comment. Peoples hearts are not to be played with for your entertainment. I certainly hope they all have "secondaries" too. You deserve to be played, with an attitude like that. Dirty skank. Moreover, after seeing your posted pic I highly doubt you have a guy. Much less ANY "secondaries". IF in fact you do, they must be real winners to lower their standards to YOUR level. Yuck.

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how can u be so rude u bitch?!? WTF is ur problem what did littlemel do to u ever? all she did was post a comment about herself, if u didn't like it then u could stfu and leave her alone! and about her pic, what if she's just got a funny picture from the Internet? u know absolutely nothing about her so why don't u just back the fuck off and leave her alone if u don't like how she lives her life or how she looks. not everybody can be perfect for u, u little bitch

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I know this may come as a shocker but women don't usually do well when sharing one man, and the man will have a favorite partner, which will cause jealousy and bitterness.

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..."How do you feel about divorce?" is also a simple question. She never said she's do it.

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exactly ! I didn't say I would divorce him. I just suggested OP make a smart remark to shut him up. Shayna I think you lack reading comprehension skills or something.

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Or that it was an intimate moment where it was easier to have a heart-to-heart talk? O_o Sex is impure for you, huh? XD

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