By Anonymous - 22/06/2013 14:00 - United States - Jacksonville
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Get the police involved and get a super injunction or a restraining order cos that's out of order, not to mention the incestuous aspect. Parents are ridiculous here as well, get some help asap.
I admit I made a mistake but I would rather take the precaution of going to the authorities because of the fact that the parents in this equation refuse to help. Anyway whoever actually listens to advice from FML has issues, we only say it to feel like we're doing something -.- I admit that too.
I'm surprised this is getting thumbed down so much. I think that going to the police is a fine idea. Although OP used the phrase 'practically stalking', the cousin's inappropriate behavior appears to be escalating and trending towards actual, criminal stalking. Since OP's parents and the cousin's parents are not adequately protecting her, enlisting the help of an outside party is the only recourse she has. If she went to another trusted adult (ie, school counselor), that person would have limited power to stop this young man's behavior. Even if the cousin is not actually breaking any laws, minimal police involvement is sometimes enough to scare the aggressor into ceasing the harassment.
cousin on cousin is not incest. (well... not in a legal sense). The only thing that is illegal is close relatives. E.G parents and siblings. Cousins in a relationship is unusual and creepy, but legally acceptable. The reason for this is that the risk for having a retarded offspring from a cousin-cousin relationship is not that high. Whereas a parent child or sibling relationship allows limited room for genetic diversity, meaning that the child is likely to have a deformity. Also the fact that O.P. said 'practically stalking' suggests that they are exaggerating. Therefore, this would be a waste of police time as nothing illegal has happened.
Yup, law is dependent on where you live. Here in my province its legal to date or marry your second cousin but illegal to date/marry your first cousin. On the eastern side from what I have been told by people from that side of our country in their province it is legal to date or marry your first and second cousin. In terms of siblings, parents, etc it is illegal across the country in all of the provinces last time I had checked or heard. All of this is crazy to me in my opinion.
I don't understand why parents just brush off weird behaviors like that rather than just addressing them.
Wat... That's like saying, "Oh don't bother going to the police if you've been raped, because a lot of cases get thrown out/nothing happens." Besides, how was the OP to know her parents wouldn't care? If I was being stalked by someone, cousin or stranger, I would assume my parents would care...
you need to go to your aunt and uncle. be an adult and be kind, but show every text, message, email and call log.