By Anonymous - 13/08/2019 12:00 - United States
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You are very irresponsible. Don't gift pets, for this exact reason. You totally deserved it.
You don't think, do you. Buying a live animal for some who might not want said animal, or is unable or unwilling, or forgets to care for said animal is the height of irresponsibility. DONT EVER GIFT PETS. I will not abide by idiots who thinks it's ok. The OP should face trouble for this.
Gifting pets as emotional support companions is a completely normal thing to do, especially for those who are grieving or lonely. It's not OPs fault that the cat died. Rather, instead what OP should have been doing is checking in on their grandmother and the cat on a regular basis, to ensure she was looking after her new pet, and then removed it when it became clear that their grandmother was incapable of taking care of the animal.
While everyone can understand wanting it to be a surprise, you ask someone if they want it first. Knowing her grandmother was grieving and probably not taking care of herself, both should have been checked on daily. I’m assuming OP is grieving as well, so understand the not thinking it through. We all make mistakes in times like that. Try not to judge too badly.
Research grief stages, she was not ready for another responsibility, give her time and try again. I am sure she was thankful for your kind consideration
reminds me of how when I gave someone a baby as a hostess gift, they got all "I dont' want to take care of a baby!" and "where the hell did you get a baby?!" and "just bring wine next time." It's as if giving living creatures to someone to feel like you've "fixed" their very serious troubles is a shallow, selfish stupid gesture.