Today, I was told I'll need a hysterectomy. I'm barely 22. My doctor said "You probably wanted kids, huh? That's gonna be rough!" FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, I found out that I need a hysterectomy. When I told my boyfriend of 2 years, he broke up with me, because he didn't have time to "coddle my feelings". FML
Today, I was told that I will never be able to have children. Thankfully for my husband, his girlfriend sure can. FML
Today, I told my dad that I'm pregnant. He shook his head and said, sadly, "What a waste. You're way too young to throw your life away like this." Silly me; I was worried that at 46 I might be too old for this. FML
Today, my doctor told me I had "abnormally large breasts." This wouldn't be so bad if I wasn't a 20 year old man. FML
Today, I was discussing with my husband about how it was time I stopped taking birth control so we could have a baby. He looked at me and said sincerely, "We're a little young to be having kids, don't you think?" He's 35 and I'm 32. FML
Today, after going through a surgery related to my ovaries, having a life-threatening complication during the surgery due to anesthesia, and my doctor warning me about future infertility, a friend told me that no one would marry me now, since I have stretch marks and stitches marks on my abdomen. FML
Today, I have always been adamant on not wanting children ever, then I did a stupid thing, and now I’m now single and pregnant with twins at 22 years-old. My life is so fucking over. FML
Today, I had to explain to my 23-year-old female friend that when I get my hysterectomy, I will still be able to poop. FML
Today, I told my mom I was thinking of having a baby. She told me it was a huge mistake because children cost a fortune, make you miserable, and if she'd had her chance again she would have gotten her tubes tied when she was 18 and saved herself the grief. Gee, thanks mom. FML
Today, I was diagnosed with polycystic ovaries and confided in my mom, after being told I would have trouble having kids. Five minutes later, I hear the whole family laughing about it downstairs. FML
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ChocolateScyther 19
Well there are two options: you may be able to harvest some eggs and save them for later for use in ivf, or you can adopt and give an existing kid a loving home. Either way, best of luck OP.
Kalhenwrath 13
That sucks; I'd go get a second opinion if I were in your shoes.
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Comments (85)
caliguy08 17
I'm sorry OP....
Calingaladha 21
The **** is wrong with that doctor? A second opinion can't hurt (if you can swing it), but there's no reason for the doctor to be like that.
lilithfury 23
See if you can have at yer eggs. At least then you'll still be able to be a mother later. I was told I needed one. Now I'm pregnant. Get second opinion. And save yer eggs!!
lilithfury 23
* harvest
Platinum69 8
Get a 2nd opinion. No need to just go ahead with one - apparently empathy lacking - doctor tells you to do.
heyLaddieHey 18
A second opinion is definitely warranted (as with any big medical decision) and hopefully you'll find one with a better bedside manner.
cfrankie 1
Sorry to hear this hon. I'm a recent hysterectomy survivor myself. 3 months post op. I would inquire about saving your eggs and talk to specialists that can help you. Also if you're having anxiety or feel really upset about it I would recommend seeing a counselor to help you prepare mentally. One more thing, if you are on Facebook, there are a few hysterectomy support groups that are so incredibly amazing and helpful. You can find out a lot more from these groups than you will from your doctor. I wish you all the best luv ☺️
irishmaiden78 23
I am sorry OP. I had one in my early 30's but I had already had two children. I can't imagine what you're going through. As some have stated previously, look into egg harvesting and then a surrogate. That or you can see another doctor and get a second opinion if you believe the doctor is wrong. Big hugs to you hun!
irishmaiden78 23
I'm sorry,while the lack of menstrual bleeding is a perk it's still tactless how you stated things. Having a hysterectomy is a scary and intensely emotional experience. Try a little sensitivity perhaps. This is a woman who will be losing a major part of herself that can be extremely hard to lose emotionally.
Punkpoptart1119 20
Because making fun of something like that is so professional. I'm sorry OP. Maybe look into egg donation? Or a surrogate?
Coffeemarc 6
New doctor immediately. They are supposed to have empathy towards their patients. Bedside manner gets an F. You get to be emotional about this. Then think about options but for now second opinion.