Why is it that when a guy gets in one little fight that be has to move all the way to belair? I mean really just because he isn't ready to get married that the guy is the "worst"? Seriously, I'd hate to be pressured into marrying my gf.

A person doesn't need to pressured into doing what they want to do anyway.

It's not about the being pressured part, it's how he acted towards her. He could have just walked by and not said anything but instead he had to made a comment and hurt OPs feelings

I mean that the issue is more that he seems so dead set against marriage than anything else.

Euhm, not wanting a marriage doesn't make the relationship automatic less serious.

maybe he was just trying to throw OP off the scent? whenever i got a hunch my OH was gona propose he'd make some comment about it's not gonna happen for a few years because he needs to be sure it'll be the real thing. keep your hopes up OP, and try not to pressure him too much. he'll propose when he's ready. in the mean time, just enjoy the relationship as it is :)

why is #1 thumbed up that much? usually these kind of comments get burried.

I wouldn't worry. At least you realized he's a dick before you married him. He could be totally inconsiderate after you tied the knot, and that would suck.

I don't see why #41 has so many thumbs down, I completely agree with her. If you're living together and saying something like that, I'd be questioning whether the relationship is even heading down the road to marriage.

Why buy the cow when the milk is free

Soap!

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Why should he change his mind? I think it's just as important to respect the boyfriend's feelings. Not wanting to get married is a choice, just like wanting it. And in my opinion, women's happiness shouldn't depend so much on whether "it will happen" or not. Times are changing.

Expectations running wild!!! Op's bf's an asshat.

How is he an ass just because he doesn't want to get married yet? Yes the comment was uncalled for but you can't assume he's an ass for not being ready yet.

Just because they live with each other doesn't mean they will end up being together forever, especially considering his response to weddings. And speaking of weddings, they might be cheesy sometimes, but it's beautiful to celebrate a lifetime of love and everyone deserves to get that chance, if they want it.

Totally agree with the no pity but weddings are a very important thing to many women.

Not all people make their username just when they post. I'm on a mobile so it doesn't let me look at OP's profile, but I made my username a long time before I submitted an FML...

Only a forever alone Pearson would make this comment

Nothing was ever said about being Forever Alone. She was just disappointed she wasn't getting married too.

its the OP's username #94

If you have a romantic relationship on any level, you're not alone. And if you've ever not been alone, it's impossible to be forever alone. You may be alone in the future, but that's not forever. That's temporarily alone.

Meh, I'm not sure if my profile picture shows up...too tired to check why not.

I'm sorry, but this isn't your own personal rant outlet, thanks for sharing though.

Your profile pic doesn't show because it says you want your profile hidden.

Did you call yourself a cat...?

Yay, fixed!!! Thanks for the help. My profile picture is of a cat, so yes, I called myself a cat, which made no sense at all since I accidentally set it to private.

Your ramblings, while valid at the beginning, are unfunny and make you seem dumb-crazy-dumb... Not only because your profile picture was not visible. Also, I am a cat.

Agreed This is not an FML if neither of them are ready for marriage or they both simply expect to live together with no further escalation in their relationship, but if she wants more and he's content with the way things are, then it may be time to move on.

I agree. Give him an ultimatum OP. It'll work out great!

I don't think anyone should look for a boyfriend/girlfriend because they are looking to get married. That relationship will more likely end in disaster. A person should only look for a relationship for love. And you're right. A long term relationship will grow, and marriage will be a possibility.

Just a clarification, I'm not saying husband hunting is the way to go. All I meant was that if just looking at wedding photos for someone else's wedding gets you shot down it's probably not going to work. Yes, love is important in relationships, but so are values and dreams. If one person wants to get married, and the other one absolutely does not it won't work.

10, Soooo.... Is OP supposed to wait it out, or go her seperate way? I'm confused on what advice you are giving her.

She's saying that OP can either wait it out and see if he changes his tune (which seems unlikely), or OP can end the relationship. Oh, and it's separate.

Whatever she feels is right. If they're already living together and he doesn't want to get married it's going to only take time to change or it won't at all. It's if she wants to wait for something that may not happen, if it means that much to her