By ForeverAlone - 20/05/2013 04:47 - United States
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He probably doesn't even deserve you OP. I bet that wedding, will be beautiful, too!!
maybe he was just trying to throw OP off the scent? whenever i got a hunch my OH was gona propose he'd make some comment about it's not gonna happen for a few years because he needs to be sure it'll be the real thing. keep your hopes up OP, and try not to pressure him too much. he'll propose when he's ready. in the mean time, just enjoy the relationship as it is :)
Weddings stir up emotions, and it's likely your boyfriend will witness the special moment and want it for himself too. Keep positive, it'll come eventually. Unless there's a dramatic plot twist, and your sister/her fiancé dramatically leaves like in a soap opera.
Why should he change his mind? I think it's just as important to respect the boyfriend's feelings. Not wanting to get married is a choice, just like wanting it. And in my opinion, women's happiness shouldn't depend so much on whether "it will happen" or not. Times are changing.
Even though you have a long-term, live-in boyfriend, you still think you're "ForeverAlone"? You get no pity from me; weddings are pretty overrated anyways.
Just because they live with each other doesn't mean they will end up being together forever, especially considering his response to weddings. And speaking of weddings, they might be cheesy sometimes, but it's beautiful to celebrate a lifetime of love and everyone deserves to get that chance, if they want it.
I thought moving in with your significant other was the step you took to see if you were capable of living together 24/7...to see if you should take the next step... That or you both are too broke to have your own place, and don't see it working out in the long run. What would I know? I'm just some cat... At least you know now... You're not stuck with butterflies waiting, looking around every corner to see if he planned to propose...unless it was just to throw you off his trail... Nah I probably need to go back to bed. It's 5:55am & I don't have to be up until 7 today...
Well OP, it's time to have a conversation with your boyfriend to find out if your life goals are the same. Clearly it looks like you're not going in the same direction. And saying it like that was not exactly kind of him but quite disrespectful.
He may mean in the short term, but either way, I'd ask him to clarify. It's quite possibly a misunderstanding, and it'd be much better to find out how he actually feels about marriage instead of inferring it from one comment. If he's not interested and you can't live without being married, you should probably both reevaluate what you want and whether the relationship is going where you want it to.
Probably not what you want to hear, buuuuuuuut if you guys have dated for a long time, live together and he is not even willing to talk about one day getting married to you it means it won't ever happen, and if it does it will probably be a disaster. If you are looking to get married, might want to find a different boyfriend.
I don't think anyone should look for a boyfriend/girlfriend because they are looking to get married. That relationship will more likely end in disaster. A person should only look for a relationship for love. And you're right. A long term relationship will grow, and marriage will be a possibility.
Just a clarification, I'm not saying husband hunting is the way to go. All I meant was that if just looking at wedding photos for someone else's wedding gets you shot down it's probably not going to work. Yes, love is important in relationships, but so are values and dreams. If one person wants to get married, and the other one absolutely does not it won't work.
If you're looking for marriage and he's not you should perhaps go separate ways :( as sad as that is, it can only lead to disappointment or anger on each side. Wait it out, he might change eventually, but that is his choice