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Even though it would have been best for them to tell you, maybe it just didn't matter to them because they know that the real parents are who raise you, not who you are biologically from.

That sucks FYL! but as long as your "father" treated you with love and raised you as his own,then remember the good memories and know he loves you just as he would if you were his real son

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Even though it would have been best for them to tell you, maybe it just didn't matter to them because they know that the real parents are who raise you, not who you are biologically from.

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I couldn't agree with this more. I'm adopted, but my parents are who raised me the majority of my life. Not the people that birthed me.

That sucks FYL! but as long as your "father" treated you with love and raised you as his own,then remember the good memories and know he loves you just as he would if you were his real son

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It shouldn't suck though. It's a possibility that her father could provide her mum with children and they went down another route. I can understand the initial shock but I can also understand why the parents didn't say anything. In my opinion it's quite irrelevant as they obviously both wanted children and it's a good possibility that OP has had a good life. :)

I agree that forgetting they used a sperm donor 35 years ago would be upsetting, but if they loved you from the day you were born, you can forgive them, right OP?

I don't really see why this is a huge deal. It doesn't change who you are, fundamentally, to have different genetics than you previously thought. Your parents are your parents, no matter who contributed to your creation.

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Well knowing your birth parents can give you a lot of insight on medical histories and certain illnesses you might be at risk for. Maybe that's OP's concern?

While that does suck not knowing for 35 years, that shouldnt change anything. They raised you and gave you love (i think) i dont see how this should change your view of them so dramatically

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Speaking as someone who's the product of a sperm donor, it can be a very touchy subject for my father. Your parents probably just never mentioned it out of fear that it would effect how you felt about your father.

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