By the attention seeker - 17/04/2013 21:57 - United States - North Miami Beach
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It's one thing to own up to your mistakes and admit your past. It's entirely different to be expected to share a difficult part of your life when asked about it by someone you've just met. Especially if someone else told them about it without your knowledge. Not excusing lying, but how many people would share their life struggles when caught off guard by someone they've just met?
I think the husband deserves some blame too. That's such a deeply personal issue. I can't think of any situation where he would need to share ops private family matters with his parents without asking for her permission first or at the very least notifying her that he told them. If op is close and comfortable enough with the in laws I'm assuming she could have shared it with them at some point. If she is not close with them, I don't see why they would need to know.
He probably was trying to help them understand a particular situation or make them not touch on certain subjects. I doubt it was he who had bad intentions. What his parents decided to do with it though shows a complete lack of good (social) manners. I think he's only to blame if he knew that his parents were ignorant b******* of if she explicitely forbade it.
"Nice to meet you. How was your trip? Ah, yes, traffic on I95 is terrible this time of day. Believe me, I know. I used to have to commute on that highway five days a week. But enough about me. Let's talk about you. Hey, remember that time you had to give up your children because of your alcohol dependency? Let's talk about that."
Your husband's parents kind of seem like douchebags. Is that really something that should be brought up the first time meeting?
Just explain to them that your mom feels bad about it, and felt pressured when they brought up bad times from the past.They shouldn't have been so nosy anyways. Fyl op