By fuck - 16/12/2014 21:04 - Norway - Slemmestad
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The majority of people infected don't even know it because the virus lays dormant for years sometimes. So if someone got it and didn't know it, they could easily assume they are still clean when they are not. And no, condoms do not fully prevent herpes from spreading.
Condoms only half the risk of getting/spreading herpes, it does not stop it. Many people don't even realise they have it. 25% of people have it, which probably means some of the judgmental people commenting on this FML have it. You don't even have to have sex to get it, it can be passed from mother to baby if she gives birth vaginally and she is shedding the virus at the time.
To be truly careful of avoiding the 25% of the population that has herpes, they will need to get a blood test from everyone who they have sex with to be sure they don't have the virus, as many people don't realise. Also, just because a person has herpes does not make them a bad person. If they have sex with you and they don't tell you and they know they have herpes, that makes them a bad person. With using condoms every time and also using an antiviral medication, transmission rate is 1% for men to women and 2% for women to men. OP could be in a committed relationship and have known their partner had herpes and taken all the preventative measures, but lost out to the odds.