By gmac0417 - 01/09/2012 06:02 - United States
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11- yeah, you're very right. And it's also a possibility that OP was overreacting to messages that may not have meant anything serious. (for example, reconnecting with an old friend) However, if the messages were bad enough that the husband felt he had to delete them, that's probably a bad assumption. Sounds like he's a bit dim, though. Cheating, forgetting to delete, and coming up with a crap excuse. I bet OP could find someone better. Whoops, ranting again. :P
Well "talking" to someone nowadays can mean flirting. I've seen many people flirt heavily and say innuendos to each other and if they are asked if they are dating, they say, "oh we're TALKING ;)". It's very confusing. But maybe the husband and wife go on each other's account because if the wife was snooping where she shouldn't be, the husband wouldn't feel the need to delete his private messages. Either way, I think it sucks. I mean, if it was truly an innocent conversation, then why would the husband feel the need to delete the messages? Unless he just knows his wife overreacts... Then I feel bad for HIM.
I think this is just a jealous wife. She says 'talking', surely that means she knows herself it wasn't flirty? I'll admit I'm one to sometimes get jealous but my boyfriend won't delete messages he's had normal conversations in just because of me. Something tells me he's had to deal with this jealousy before and thought this was the best way to deal with it. Some say he may be wrong but some women flip at men just talking politely to other women. The best way I get through any jealously is to take the piss out of myself. I joke about deleting his friends and such because he and I both know I wouldn't be so stupid. If they are just talking then she may need some help to overcome the jealousy. It may help. Hopefully she doesn't push her husband away and they can sort things out!
yeah so he needs to be deleted and he deserves it for communicating with another woman? how retarded are you people? Just because wife is jealous doesn't mean jack shit, and don't give me crap that " it must be smth bad cuz he said he thought he deleted messages" because he knows his wife and knows she will overreact for about anything. Damn average FML user IQ must be potato!
You can find another man. I just heard you can talk to people on Facebook! Hang in there op!
Who leaves their husband because of Facebook messages? They don't have to mean anything. The whole situation probably just stressed him out and he said the first excuse that came to his mind. Just talk to your husband and if it turns out he was cheating, see if you can make it work anyway if you really love him, THEN if that doesn't work out, leave him.
4 - it's very possible he had her look at something on his Facebook and she saw the messages. My husband has had me read things on his Facebook before. There should be a complete openness and trust in the relationship. My husband knows most of my passwords and can access my stuff if he wants. I've got nothing to hide from him so I don't care if he logs on and looks around.
Perhaps they're older, and like my parents, don't have many friends on Facebook. If the husband had left his Facebook logged in when OP went on the computer, she may have seen a message notification and thought something along the lines of "Now which of his 5 friends on here could possibly need to be talking to him?!" and opened the drop down thingy just to see the first part of the message that appears out of sheer curiosity. It happens. My mom did that on my Facebook and she's definitely seen some things she wasn't supposed to.
15, Great in theory, but when you are applying these things in reality you realise people come with complexities that are beyond the scope of "there should be complete trust and openness". How you manage your relationship is up to you, but don't go suggesting everyone needs to be the same.
All of that just for "talking to other women" ... Holy shit what a crime, it didn't even mention flirting, but then again maybe I'm just saying this because the majority of my friends are women and I had a super jealous and crazy ex who deleted all of the girls on my Facebook and lied about it for 6+ months -_-
I would say FYL, but aren't you invading his privacy a little?
I agree with #33, if OP has suspicions, then it's her right to check up on her hubby. IMO, people who freak out about invasion of privacy are the one who have something to hide. It's not like they're dating, they are married. OP's husband shouldn't be carrying on private conversations with ANY woman behind OP's back. Sorry, but if my hubby acts suspicious, you better believe I'll go behind him and check his email, Facebook or phone. If he has nothing to hide, he shouldn't get mad.
They are married my parents have no passwords on there crap because they have nothing to hide.. I have a password on my phone but my bf knows my password and when he picks it up and starts messin with it guess Wut I don't care cuz I have nothing to hide.. There shouldn't have been anything on there for her to find in the first place..
Jesus fuck, it doesn't matter. The only thing that does matter is the fact that he was cheating on her. So all you ignorant assholes saying "oh you were too nosy, ydi" need to shut the hell up. Obviously you're all a bunch of stupid clueless 10 year olds. Cheating on someone is horrible.