By whoknows?! - 05/02/2010 21:18 - France
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What 219 said. And even if it had been the other way round and say, he'd gotten a naked picture of her sister because she touched his phone, she STILL wouldn't deserve it. Also what 213 said. My fiancee has all my passwords, and I have all hers. I very very rarely use any of them, because I trust her, but if I did, that shouldn't be a problem, because we DO trust each other. The only reason someone could really have for being defensive about it is if they did have something to hide. Which, OP's boyfriend did.
i dont think its fucked up at all to pick up your significant others cell phone. whether you are using it to make a call, change a picture, look through pictures etc. i do it all the time (as does my boyfriend) without ever looking for anything bad. he's the asshole for doing it and thank god she did find out
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Why the fuck were you on your boyfriends phone? You're a woman, you are unable of intelligent thought. He probably taught you HOW to use that phone. Don't fuckin' snoop on your boyfriend's stuff. He's obviously pissed off right now 'cause there's a 90% chance you went and told EVERY single one of your friends, whose business it isn't either. Get the fuck off his phone and into the kitchen or his lap.
That was uncalled for. What makes me a bitch? Maybe my comment wasn't very polite, but it's not like I insulted anyone. Hope I don't come off as bitchy, but I want to explain something: When you call someone else a bitch, you might want to think about your attitude. "Let's try not being a bitch. I know it second nature to you but its unnecessary. ok " You can have your opinion, but hypocrisy is intolerable.
THANK YOU, 44!! I've been reading these comments and thinking, "How on earth is she being NOSY, or even intrusive?" If she was snooping, okay, yeah, makes sense. But do all of you seriously claim to have never played with someone else's phone, if for no other reason than it's different than yours and you're curious how it works? Jeez.
Yeah, I seriously claim never to have played with other people's stuff without their permission. And when it comes to people's personal stuff (like someone's phone, pda, planner etc) I NEVER put my hands on them. It doesn't matter if you are looking for something or you are just messing around. 9 out of 10 cases, the owner will be pissed if you don't keep your hands off of such items (though they may chose not to show it) Oh, and changing the settings on someone's phone IS intruding! The owner has those settings because they like it that way. NO one has the rigth to change them, unless said person has the owner's EXPLICIT permission.
Wow are u kiddin' me? I feel sorry for whoever is in a relationship with u. It's one thing to go snooping but doing something as innocent as changing a background on your spouses phone is intruding are u serious? U are one uptight person and must have stuff to hide. If u don't have anything to hide from your significant other then it shouldn't matter. I wouldn't mind at all if my g/f changed my background, then again i have nothing to hide. A relationship is supposed to be open and honest and about sharing. If your shutoff enough to get offended about your phone then you must be shutoff in many other ways also.
#161, I love how you somehow think you can tell everything about my personality just by reading a couple of comments. No, I don't have anything to hide. I was just raised with a lot of common sense and a lot of respect for other people's privacy (unlike you, apparently) ! Personally, I don't feel the need to mess around with my boyfriend's stuff, and neither was he ever been interested in messing around with my things (mind you, we are living together and we both have easy acces to each other's personal items). And I wouldn't mind him changing my background, reading my texts, viewing the photos stored on my phone etc AS LONG AS HE ASKS PERMISSION BEFOREHAND. Otherwise, I'll be pissed. The notion of private property exists even after you become involved in a serious relationship. And being able to abstain from snooping around your SO's personal stuff is the true test of faith. If you trust someone, you can let them have their private things and you can live even without knowing every single damn detail about them.
See that's where you are wrong. I've never snooped through anyone's phone, whether i have been in a relationship with them or not. At the same time tho any relationship I have ever been in I have never cared if the person i was with has looked through my phone, and especially not to change my wallpaper or whatever. My ex used to write things at the top all the time like 'I love you" or whatever, and take pictures of herself and set them as my wallpaper and not only did i not mind but i thought it was cute and made me feel special. Once again unless you have something to hide then it shouldn't matter if your bf/gf or whatever looks through your phone unless you have something to hide, simple as that. Now if someone is accusing you of being unfaithful and insists on going through your phone for evidence, that's a different story. But just to change a wallpaper or something, nothing wrong with it whatsoever in my book, in fact several girls i knew encouraged me too and were flattered by it.
The fact that you told your girlfriends they are allowed to change the settings on you phone....isn't that explicit permission? That's what I was talking about! If you have the person's permssion, then it's OK to look through their stuff. I believe it's useless to keep arguing. As far as I'm concerned, one can have privacy even when they are in a relationship. I'm a firm believer in the fact that every single person on Earth is entitled to withholding certain pieces of information from everyone else (including parents, best friends, boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse), for no other reason than the fact that it's just none of their business and that every single person on Earth has the right to have their private property in the exact state they want it to be . From what I understand, you believe that if someone likes to keep their private matters private, that means that person has something to hide. We'll just have to agree to disagree on that.
My boyfriend and I always joke around like that and change stuff on each others phones, or take pictures or use each others phones if one of ours dies. There has never been an issue about "snooping" because we have a great relationship and never have to worry about the other one cheating or hiding something. All you who are paranoid about "snoops" are probably in shitty relationships where you bitch about your boyfriend/girlfriend behind their back and aren't completely open and comfortable with them. Sucks for you! The funny thing is, in my previous relationship, the guy was all paranoid about "snooping" and his phone (and always accused me of cheating when I did nothing wrong), and it turned out that he tried to cheat on me...with Craigslist. So stay FAR away from people who are paranoid about "snoops."
Bdub and shaliz are both wrong, because there is no universal right or wrong in privacy issues like this. Various cultures have different expectations of privacy that are all mixed together in our society. That "9 out of 10" statement was absolute BS. Unless you grew up together or explicitly discussed personal boundaries you can't expect someone to share the same unspoken rules as you. Shaliz, don't say respect for "property" when you clearly mean privacy (or don't you let your BF change the channel on your tv without explicit permission?) OP and others clearly don't expect to stumble across any secret pics on the phone and therefore don't consider it an invasion of privacy. Unless the guy in question told OP that he highly values his privacy and doesn't want her touching his phone, pc, etc. you can't blame her for accidentally finding anything. Maybe before calling OP a "nosy bitch" you should ponder if saying it makes you a judgmental bitch with no respect for other people's ideals.
It shouldn't be considered nosy if they're together! My fiancee can go through my whole laptop if she wants, look at every file I have, every website I've been to, because I don't have anything to hide. If it was some random guy, fair enough. But what's the point of being in a couple with someone if you just treat everything they do as if some random guy did it?
The point is to put them in trouble, and I think it's quite effective. I know I would send the picture, and it's not for anyone to enjoy (where did you get that idea?) ,ofcourse neither her father or(!) mother will like it. But hopefully they can teach their daughter to not pose naked. But what is your suggestion?
Why punish the parents by creating a family rift? They didn't do anything wrong. The subject doesn't even need to be broached with them. Mom and dad have issues of their own. Your parents don't call you with their problems. The sisters and boyfriend need to solve this themselves.
I still thinks it's a great way to pay back :) ( and I'm assuming that their parents aren't into their kids.. gross!!! Says alot about you who seems to only have that in mind? now, thats freaky... ) And the rule is simple, don't photograph yourself naked! It will end up on the internet, and yes.. your parents, their friends .. just about anyone can see them. Your boyfriend will get in trouble, just as your sister.. win/win! And the parents will have a new reality-check AND get over it :)
That will sure make for an awkward conversation. If it were me, I'd leave a note on the phone telling him what an ass he was and set his background to the picture. Then go kill my sister for being a whore