Today, I called my mom to make sure she could attend on the wedding day my fiancé and I had discussed. She started off with criticizing the venue we considered, then went on to criticize my fiancé, and then stated she would under no circumstances help out, but demanded to pick my wedding dress. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, a week after my fiancé and I got engaged, his mother is already complaining that she isn't involved enough in the wedding arrangements. We haven't even set a date yet. FML
Today, marks the sixth day in a row that my mum has called me to discuss my upcoming wedding. She's obsessed and has intimidated the actual planner I hired into going along with her plans. She's slipped up twice already and accidentally referred to it as her own wedding. Just great. FML
Today, my mother thought it would be a wonderful idea to make me late for me own wedding. It wouldn't be so bad if she hadn't focused solely on my sister because my wedding didn't center on her. The sister in question snubbed being my maid of honor over a year ago, and just decided to randomly show up. FML
Today, I overheard my mom talking on the phone with my sister about how much they hate my fiancé. My wedding is in two weeks and my family has been pretending to like my future husband for three years. FML
Today, I learned that if you complain to your mom about your future mother-in-law's bitchiness, your overprotective mom might confront her about it and end up punching her in the face. My fiancée blames me for the incident. FML
Today, I got married and my mom refused to be there because my dad, whose guts she hates, was there even though I promised repeatedly that I would keep them apart. I couldn't do the mother-son dance. She keeps insisting that it was a "lapse in judgment." Yeah, like we're really going to be able to have a do-over. FML
Today, my fiancé and I met his mother for lunch to discuss wedding plans. When we got there, I went to the bathroom to wash my hands. I heard a woman talking on her cell phone in the stall about her son's "disgusting, slutty girlfriend." The toilet flushed and my future mother-in-law walked out. FML
Today, I was busy going over wedding plans with my fiancé, when my mother called. Apparently, she wants me to "drop the joke" about this "fake engagement", because she was under the impression I was only dating a white guy to piss her and dad off, and was now getting carried away with it. FML
Today, I was talking to my future mother-in-law about my upcoming wedding. She told me that I wasn't allowed to have the wedding at a church, nor wear a white dress, nor have roses for flowers, because that would mean I'd be "copying" her. FML
Today, whilst trying on wedding dresses with my mom, she told me that I looked fat and awful in the dress I liked. When I told her how hurtful she was being, she told me that I should be grateful that she told me what she thought instead of laughing at me behind my back. FML
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Top comments
crudeandrudeguy 29
Take back her invitation before she ruins your special day. She will...
invadermaythe1st 35
I really hope you said no.
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Comments (58)
noisyboy4000 23
Your wedding preparations are between you and your significant other. You didn't ask your mother for her help, so she has no right to tell you how to celebrate YOUR big day. Hope you have a beautiful wedding op
lulinator 40
My advice: Don't be afraid of offending people. Everyone will be butthurt about something, you can please them all. And it's YOUR day. Your memories are more important than their feelings.
lulinator 40
Can't* Oops
Tripartita 45
It sounds like she's not handling her lack of control over your life very well. Maybe you should task her with some irrelevant chore and act like it's a big help. Or give her some Lego to occupy herself with.
hipposteve 21
your day, your wedding. I hope you put aside her negativity!
steve02134 7
If she were paying for the dress, one would expect she should have some input. Otherwise . . .
isuckwithnames 22
Yeah but being a megabitch does kinda cancel that out.
whatunicorn 17
In this wedding I see Momzilla rather than Bridezilla. Hope you stood up for yourself OP, best of luck and congratulations!
InfiniteSunshine 32
Honestly, do the wedding with want you want and what works best for you and your fiance. The people that show up and accept your choices for it are the ones that understand that this day isn't about them and what they would like, it's about supporting you. You'll regret catering to other people because you're sacrificing making other people more happy and comfortable on a day where it's supposed to be significant and focused on the 2 of you, your life together, and you being happy and comfortable. The day isn't about her, what she wants and demands is irrelevant. I don't know if she's married or not, but if she is, she got the chance to have a wedding the way she wanted, and if she isn't, well that's still no excuse to control yours.
janfleury 19
You do know that you do not have to give into her demands. Just because she's your parent does not mean you have to let her treat you or your soon to be spouse like this. Stand up to her you will feel better about yourself. I know it's hard but you can do it. If you don't it will only get worse. Good luck OP.
Symphoniaes 32
My mother-in-law is like that. Any time we'd call she'd lose her shit so we only text now. Works so much better ?
AKchic 7
"On second thought, you don't need to attend. Thank you for your support, though." I am sorry OP. My current MIL is a lot like this. Any news we have is all about her. She can't pay for our abortion (we didn't want one, nor did we mention one, it was the first thing out of her mouth though). She won't help us with our wedding (again, we didn't ask, she was simply being told the date/place we'd chosen), then complain about the venue to the point she rented out a huge chalet for our wedding and invited her entire side of the family (4 siblings, 43 kids, multiple grandchildren, spouses, etc.). Our guest list was 40 people max, and my husband was adamant about not inviting relatives he hadn't spoken with in 5+ years. She wasn't happy when she had to not only cancel the chalet rental, but tell all of the relatives that SHE'D invited them without our permission (she blamed me anyways). I could go on, but this post is about you and your situation. The only advice I can give is set boundaries early, often, and stick to them. Your mother won't get better with age.
RinoaHeartilly 36
Sounds like you should have made your own post instead of making this one about you.
RabbitOfAurora 28
I'm laughing so much at this! Serves her right for going behind your back. Hopefully this is a humiliation she won't soon forget. And I suggest you don't let her forget. And #32, She's sympathizing with OP and giving legit advice based on a similar experience.