Just stop, please

By fuck you, mum - 11/01/2013 22:19 - United Kingdom

Today, marks the sixth day in a row that my mum has called me to discuss my upcoming wedding. She's obsessed and has intimidated the actual planner I hired into going along with her plans. She's slipped up twice already and accidentally referred to it as her own wedding. Just great. FML
I agree, your life sucks 40 625
You deserved it 4 158

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Reminds me a lot of my mom... Are you sure you aren't my long-lost sister or something?

Uninvited her.. Fire the planner.. And intimidate her rat so she gets lonely..

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Reminds me a lot of my mom... Are you sure you aren't my long-lost sister or something?

Well if the planner is just going along with her fire the planner

The whole thing reminds me of My Big Fat Greek Wedding. Oppa! Plus, the mom sounds like a total Bundt.

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Has she tried your dress yet?

OPs gotta stand her ground and be like ITS MY FUCKING WEDDING

my mum keeps trying to influence what my wedding dress will look like. I'm having a Catholic wedding so she thinks having a strapless dress would be 'inappropriate'

Yeah, seriously tell her how it is or just elope. My mil is like that as well. She wanted to plan my rehearsal party aka plan HER party and I just flat out told her no. She hasn't bothered me about it since. The longer you wait the worse she'll get and the harder it'll be to get her to stop

#38, my thoughts exactly! Oppa!(;

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I'd recommend yelling instead. Sounds like OP may need a little more than a nice little "Please let the professional do his job."

That or threaten her saying your scaring the shit out of my husband and if you keep going on like this, you can't come to the wedding.

Bitchslap will do.

Op needs to tell her mother that this isn't her wedding and she needs to stop planning it for her. Op deserves the wedding that she wants. Not one that the mother wants.

to me sound like the kind of OCD mom that you talk about it and will break crying then keep her plan going.

OP needs to do much more than talk, it's her wedding, not her mother's. She deserves the big day she's been dreaming of. OP needs to slap (metaphorically) her mother into reality.

*literally

Maybe she never got the chance to have her dream wedding. However, she shouldn't force upon you. Confront her and tell her that she has to back off or you can't invite her to your wedding. From what I read it seems you have been avoiding doing so.

And perhaps tell your planner that they need to do their job and comply with your wishes or they'll be out on their ass for failing to meet their employer's expectations. If I painted a room red that the homeowner wanted blue because their crazy mother said so, I'd be repainting that shit for free and buying the paint.

I completely agree. It's very annoying when the mothers try to plan a wedding that they've always wanted for their daughter's wedding.

'Fuck you, mum, ' Bridezilla alert.

More like Crazy Bitch Mom alert!

Uninvited her.. Fire the planner.. And intimidate her rat so she gets lonely..

I agree with #4. If you're paying the planner, your mom has no say unless you ask for an opinion. If it were my mom, she would be removed from any sort of wedding planning. This will be your day, not hers.

Easier said than done! When my sister got married my mom basically took over all the planning and even tried on my sister's wedding dress.

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I'm sure she just wants OP to have the wedding that the mom never had.

Which is what I meant, but apparently everyone hated it coming from me. I'll go ahead and thumbs myself down anyways :(

53 I think the difference between what you said and what 39 said was, the way you said it was like saying mom want OP to have a perfect wedding for OP. What 39 said was, mom was planning the wedding indirectly, for herself, not really for OP. At least that's what I thought when I read the two comments.

better your mom than your mother in law

My mother in law was the same way. It's your day so keep her from ruining it

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Ban her from planning any further. It's YOUR wedding after all.

I have a feeling she already tried that...

That is when you throw the ban hammer out the window and get a ban shotgun...

My aunt was like that about my pregnancy :/ Poor kid had his life planned out before he even came into the world. She went so far as to try to get in the room while I was pushing him out lol

My mom has my kid's life planned out and s/he hasn't even been conceived. ._.

Congratulations on your new green mushroom, you've just been 1-Uped.

You're poor husband. Talk about a monster-in-law.

Not really. The guy usually doesn't get very involved with the wedding planning because (and I'm assuming here) they realize the only thing that matters is that they're actually marrying the woman they love, or they really just don't care, or they just want their lady to be happy. And he's not her husband yet, just saying... And may never be if the wedding is for mom after all (;