By Anonymous - 04/09/2009 07:39 - Korea Republic of
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Hi, I'm the author of this post. There are a few things I would like to clarify. First, I am from the south, and it is considered respectful to ask the father for his daughter's hand in marriage. This is usually just a formality, but it shows the parents a lot of respect. This is usually done in person. This has nothing to do with viewing someone as property. This was just a gesture of goodwill to her parents. Nothing more. Second, the reason I didn't ask them in person is because I am stationed in Korea for the next year and I won't be able to see them until sometime next year. I WAS planning on asking my ex when I took leave in November so I thought asking over the phone would be ok. But as you can imagine, that isn't going to happen. Third, the idea of us getting married was her idea. I have been in the military 6 years now and I know what deployments do to relationships. I cared a lot about her and to be honest I still do. This actually happened about 3 weeks ago and it is still shocking since we were together for over 2 years. But, after reading a few of the post on here, I understand it could have been a lot worst. She could have totaled my car or killed my dog. So thanks for all of the well wishes, I appreciate it. For those who laughed at this and said that sucks, you know, your right. It does suck. And yes my life sucks (for now)
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On the contrary. Who the hell asks a woman's parent's for permission to marry her? She's not their property, and therefore they have no right to give or refuse permission.
It's hard to explain but it's like showing that he cares for her very much and cares about the parents, too. It doesn't relate to the actual approval of getting married. It's just a friendly heads up of "Hey, I want to marry her" which can also be "Hey, you may have grand-kids soon!"
"Who the hell asks a woman's parent's for permission to marry her?" ...are you serious? how old are you and where do you live? asking the parents permission is about old fashioned courtesy and respect for the parents of your girlfriend (...usually something that is a GOOD trait...), not about actually getting "permission" in the form of a "yes" or "no". also... the parents usually have an idea it might happen, and therefore it would be rare to ever be denied "permission" to marry someone's daughter - which is exactly why this is an FML....
lol firstly you are a fool for having no respect for other people's cultures. secondly do you understand how the horrible-inlaws cliche came to be? no matter how horrible the parents of ones partner might be, usually the partner still has feelings for them because you know they are their parents and its therefore usually a good idea to have a good working relationship with the parents regardless of your personal views
"...And he cried, There goes my life. There goes my future, my everything. I love you. Baby good-bye. There goes my life. There goes my life. Baby good-bye...."
Not creative at all. Actually even more sad now that I know you're a dude. Based on all the whiney "She left me" lyrics, I assumed you were a little girl starting her journey through puberty. Dude, get a better taste in music. And stop copy and pasting. It doesn't add to your personality, unless of course your personality consists of being a douche, then please continue...