By Anonymous - 14/02/2018 08:30
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Bummer for you, better luck with the next guy. Now the next question. Should you let her know?
If I were the wife I'd want someone to tell me... same way as if I were the "girlfriend" the first thing I'd be doing is telling the wife! Then again I find it hard to believe that OP didn't have a clue about him being married, it might just be me being over sceptical but surely there must have been some red flags?
So... either he really had no clue you thought of him as a boyfriend, or... yeah, no. I got nothing. Not one of those "glass is half full" kind of guy either.
I would have said yes and let her know when they came to dinner so he also would have been newly single, not for your benefit but for his wife. I know his wife is not your problem but if I were being cheated on, I'd want to know so I can handle it
Unless he has an IQ in the single digits, he's not going to ask his wife to dinner with a girl with whom he's cheating on her. More likely, they have some sort of open relationship.
I'm so confused. Did he know he was your boyfriend for 7 months? How far do you live apart? Have you had contact these 7 months? Was he married before these 7 months or did he just get married? If so didn't you notice a change in his behaviour or his mentioning of a new wife? WHAT THE HELL HAPPENED THERE????