By hadrienne's pall - 13/05/2016 19:25 - Canada - Markham
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Mistakes happen... But you probably shouldn't ask any customer if they are sure about that, overweight or not.
When I ordered a Diet Coke and my skinnier partner ordered a regular Coke, the server gave me a look and asked us separately if "we were sure"; we perceived it as him making a comment about my weight, like it's expected that I'd order a trough. It's possible he didn't mean that way (though we're certain he did) but it just goes to show that you should be more careful with your words and actions when it comes to work and just being a decent person.
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Granted you were being a bit pushy. But if that same question had been asked to a healthy weighted person, there would be no problem. It's one thing to be overweight. It's another to expect people to cater to your every insecurity and tiptoe around you. FYL
I understand your point of not catering to someones needs because of a choice they make. But I still don't believe you should be hateful or rude with someone on a physical attribute. Saying they're being over sensitive seems a bit out there considering it could be taken incorrectly by multiple parties.
I feel like a super skinny person would not have taken it well either... Just know for next time not to push as much and just accept the customer's answer as final unless they say otherwise to avoid situations like these.
I'll be honest until I was 25 I was super skinny and no one ever from childhood on up ever asked "Are you sure" until I was fat then suddenly that question got added. My skinny siblings still don't get the " are you sure" I don't know if it's a subconscious thing but one of the reason's it's so infuriating is that it's usually only asked of overweight people most of whom have a slower metabolism than skinny people and thus actually eat less food but constantly get treated like we are eating more when that's visibly not true. A table with my family my skinny brothers and sister with scraped clean plates and my mom getting a to go box is the one whose asked if she's sure she's full.
A server asking someone if they've had enough to eat is never a good idea. You're not their mom and font know their circumstances. You can ask "will that be all" if you have to say something, but just repeating the order to make sure you have it right is better.
Why would you ask if they had enough to eat? Isn't the standard question "are you finished" or "can I take your plate?" Unless you're a grandma type at a country diner, asking if someone if they've had enough to eat seems a little strange, and maybe like you're pushing them to order more. Questioning their response is even pushier. I'm a normal weight, and though I doubt I'd ask for the manager, I would find that pretty awkward and a bit insulting.
Agreed. That's awkward and I don't really understand why it was asked. If they clearly answer yes or no, there is nothing left to say. If they seem unsure, offer a box. I wouldn't be happy if someone questioned my judgment like that after I'd given a clear answer.
That's just it they don't ask skinny people that question even though skinny people have a higher metabolism and consume more food than overweight people. I have been both. Until I was 25 I was super skinny and I always ate enough to earn the nickname bottomless pit as my metabolism slowed so did the amount of food I consumed. Now I am more likely to need a to go box than a dessert menu but now they try to shove more food in me.