Welcome back to the club

It is a tough thing. Some people don't value it, but don't let that deter you from the life you want to live and value my friend

it's life. my boss told me I have to much heart for my job and I should care less if I want to get through the rest of my career. stay true to you but be more guarded on who you let in.

It's easy to lay the blame on other people but you must think. How do your honestly and vulnerability manifest themselves? Do you say things that hurt other people? Do you keep talking about bad and negative things? Do you have a good energy positive aura or do you have a sad negative one that makes people distance themselves? We pay psychologists so they can help us deal with our issues. Don't expect friends to replace them. It's too much for a person to ask. Keep therapy to where it belongs and keep friends as a way to get the energy and motivation for going on and having fun in life. You don't need to hide every bad day or feeling, but you do need to manage that most of the interaction will place you as someone that is fun to be around.

Just to clarify, because commenters seem to be missing this (or I'm misinterpreting): There's an "it" here, that is the thing that causes other people to lose respect for you. "It" is not vulnerability and honesty. Vulnerability and honesty are you revealing "it" to others, and being punished. Honesty is complicated. Neurodivergent folks, especially Autistic and ADHD folks, value honesty more than neurotypical people do (on average). Bullies will take vulnerability as an invitation to harm you. But even valuing honesty might not make up for the fact that "it" bothers people. You need either a way to test the waters (like a closeted person finding out how their loved ones feel about the subject before coming out themselves), or to talk to a therapist/psychologist, whose training includes behaving nonjudgmentally. Also, you can probably find an online community (perhaps a subreddit) of people who share "It" with you. They will be safe to talk to. (But be safe! If it's something like, "I live where I can be killed for being an atheist," don't do anything that could let people trace the account to you.) Good luck.

Why would you think people in general will value vulnerability? Most people prefer resilience. Only discuss your vulnerabilities with trained professionals. Loved ones can make things worse even when they try to help.

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