By Anonymous - 12/09/2010 16:56 - United States
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Kingdingaling, I told my mom I was having sex with my boyfriend when I was 15. It's something you wanna tell your mom. I'm so glad I told her because after we got over the initial "omg you're not a virgin!" drama she actually helped me get birth control and it feels good to know if something bad happened to me sexually (pregnancy, STD) I could go to her.
I told my mom that same thing except she told me that if she ever saw him again she would cut his balls off..
I think most people fail see what the real issue is. If you think you're mature enough to have sex, then you should be mature enough to raise a kid in a healthy home. It's not fair to the kid if he/she has to grow up in a broken home or bounce around between different foster homes it's whole life. And most teens aren't ready to raise a kid.
72, I said it because I know so many pregnant teenagers and when I ask them who takes care of the baby I always hear "my parents" or "my sister" I think it's irresponsible to stick somebody with your child just because you made a mistake. I know there are a lot of teenagers that are responsible but it seems as though the numbers are depleting.
*reads #100 and reaffixes chastity belt* Seriously, though, this is a sticky subject for me. (Don't be crass!) At first consideration, the ability to understand the risks and live with the possible consequences of sex seems like a sensible prerequite for participating in it. But as Cinn and boopity have said, who decides when that point has been reached? How reliable is one's own judgement on this subject? I'm 27, and although I've been mature enough for marriage for at least 5 years— indeed, I've been married for that long— IMO, the Does are nowhere near mature enough to be parents. For that matter, I know a lot of people over 30 who aren't mature enough for pregnancy or kids. The aforementioned standard causes a conundrum in such cases, NTM the whole "Is anyone ever really ready for parenthood before it happens?" question.
I agree, Irish, and my point wasn't that you can't have sex till you know you could raise a kid. My point was that you had to understand the responsibility (sorry for using that word again Boppity) and be able to take up that responsibility if you decide to take the risk. Though you are right, teenagers often think that they know everything (it somewhat comes with the territory), so some might think they would be able to deal with it when they can't. But that's what the age limit is for, or at least that's how I view it. As a point where most people start to become mature enough to start considering it carefully and making a better decision as to what they chose to do.
Normally, when one says "in between," he or she gives two examples, not just one. But besides that, if this happened to me (which it wouldn't, for a number of reasons), then I'd have a reasonable discussion with my mother, or at least attempt to do so. Perhaps you could do the same.
Reverse Double standard FTW!! =D It's usually the girl who gets the bad treatment.