By megsterr413 - 27/05/2016 04:45 - United States - Springfield
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hey guys, op here. I'm having a hard time posting my comment for some reason. but thanks for the feedback we mended the problem. and for the record we always play video games together but he was playing a single player game I couldn't exactly join in , I wasn't interested in playing my game or anything else really but him. he realized he was a bit in sensitive and has since made up for it and apologized. he also said he did come looking for me but he felt bad waking me up. we have been married happily for 6 years now and it was a small very minor bump in the road. thanks for all your concern though
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Next time he asks for dinner just ignore him until he falls asleep. Then go eat with your neighbor.
Yeah maybe he didn't want to wake her up but that was kind of rude for what he did. My ex did that. My current love, he balance it out. He can play his games all he want, and he do take a break in between couple of times to be with me to watch a show or sometime I play with him a game we can play.
You shouldn't have to beg your husband for attention, and you especially shouldn't have to spend an entire day doing it. Your marriage won't last long if that behavior continues, and you should tell him that.
Difference: "Dancing with the Stars" takes up one hour of a whole week. This husband played video games for an entire day. That was a really terrible example. And no, he can't expect his wife to be content to be ignored all day. Sure, it's not unreasonable to want a few hours for yourself doing an activity, but spending a whole day doing it when you know your wife wants your company is not okay. That's utterly selfish. That behavior is forgivable maybe once or twice, but when it becomes a habit then the wife isn't getting anything out of the relationship so she might as well not be in it anymore.
When you're excluding family and ignoring your spouse for a hobby, it's not a hobby any more.
Girl! wine is good for the soul! so is call of duty. Play with him :)
Nothing wrong with doing things your partner likes that you don't. I spent a portion of my anniversary fishing, an activity I dislike, because my husband wanted to and he wanted me to do it with him. He likewise has gone dancing with me for no reason other than that I wanted him to go dancing with me. Doing things you dislike that your partner does can be a wonderful bonding experience--if you're doing it because your partner wants you to, not because they're determined to do it with or without you and it's the only way to spend any time with them. Otherwise you create a standard and then you're going to end up always doing what he wants, never what you want and then the only enjoyment you get out of life is when he acknowledges your presence. Sounds like a pretty miserable existence, doesn't it?
I sometimes do multiplayer video games with my spouse, but CoD bores the shit out of me (no offence to people who enjoy it). Sacrifices go both ways - if he really wanted to involve his wife in the hobbies that are taking up all his time he could probably find something that would actually interest her - there are plenty of games out there.
Tbh, I get sick playing games with a first person view, so I wouldn't be able to do that for my partner. The amount of times I've had to disappoint him because I couldn't play a game with him, due to it being first person.... But still, it's advised to take breaks throughout game play, surely OP's husband could've taken breaks to spend a little time with her.
How did you "beg"? I think that is a key factor in this FML. If you whined like a 5 year, you deserved to be ignored. If you asked nicely, your husband is a dick.
No, it doesn't matter. Either way he knew she was feeling neglected. And, sure, I could understand being reluctant to spend time with someone who is nagging you and making them wait an extra hour or two, but all day? No, that is not acceptable, whether she was being obnoxious or not.