Why get married just to ignore your wife? Might as well stay single if you're just going to take care of only yourself. You'll save her a lot of wasted time and affection and she can marry someone who is actually interested in a relationship.

it isn't like that. no one is supposed to have to beg someone else for attention. especially married couples. i just think that she needs to take better care of herself, if she is so lacking in morale, health or stability to have to *beg* for attention. seriously, even i only did that if i was in seriously dire straits.

That is the most asinine thing I have ever read. If both parties in the relationship feel they are first, the relationship is not going to work. If both are selfless, give more to the relationship than they take, that makes a relationship work.

You're right; no one should have to beg for attention. But OP isn't pathetic for wanting to spend time with her husband. That is the whole point of marriage after all. *He's* pathetic for caring more about a video game than his wife--a living breathing human being who loves him.

That attitude might "work" in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, but not in a marriage or committed relationship. Being selfish will only lead to heartbreak. Sure, both parties should do things that they like to do but not at the cost of hurting the person they supposedly care about.

wrong. you are supposed to put yourself first, until you feel at least neutral, emotionally, mentally, and physically. if you meet all those, and most of you exceed that by far, then you can focus on others. its basic stuff. didn't everyone know this? i only discovered it because the "selfless attitude" is what caused the nasty heartbreak.

The point of marriage is making yourself and partner equals. This isn't self preservation or a survival situation, this is acknowledging that if you're gonna marry someone, you shouldn't force them to literally beg for attention. Marriage is full of sacrifices, and if one partner isn't willing to make them, it's gonna be a shit marriage.

True, one should put themselves first in general throughout life, but is it really that much to ask to not play video games for a few hours? Jeez. You're acting like she's asking him to give up his hopes and dreams.

It's pathetic to spend all day nagging at someone who clearly doesn't want to spend time with you. The fact that you spent the entire day badgering him makes it seem like you need constant validation and that is exausting. You could have gone out with your friends or anything else.

Yeah, 60. It's so pathetic to want to spend time with your husband. It's almost like she loves him or something. So weird.

^ Husband material, OP!

The door closing woke her up.

He's just a boyfriend. Dump him. Find yourself a boyfriend who will pay attention to you, and in the meantime, find yourself and reconnect with friends and family. I promise you'll be infinitely happier.

If you're feeling like shit in your relationship, that's a bad sign and super unhealthy. You either need to 1) talk to your bf about how you feel (if you haven't already done this) or 2) just leave. If he prioritizes a fictional game over your own relationship, he's not worth it. Especially if he knows that it makes you feel like shit, if he's aware of this and still isn't changing his actions, he doesn't really care that much.

Glad to hear this isn't a habit for him. Good luck in your marriage and here's to hoping this doesn't happen again.

thanks grecehi I'm glad you've had my back this whole time !!

No problem. :) I know what you want through that day. Happened to me before and it sucks.