By themarrowguy - 23/08/2013 10:06 - United States
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we don't know how long they've been dating or how serious the relationship is so it's hard to say. I get how we are all supposed to be selfless and kind but most relationships don't work out and every procedure has it's risks. if she felt that way she should have just kept her mouth shut, but I think it's okay for her to feel like that
The relationship seems plenty serious to me. But i dont think ur gf is an insensitive bitch. I mean she went ahead and got tested to see if she could be ur donor. I think that if she was a match, she would have done the transplant, despite how she felt about it. She seems kind of courageous to me.
For those saying she should be glad to: the fact that she went to get tested means that she was willing to be a donor if she could, but just wasn't enthused at the idea. I don't blame her. How many of YOU would not be relieved that you don't have to be a marrow donor, considering the fact that it's EXTREMELY PAINFUL to give or receive bone marrow?
It was a nice gesture that she tested to see if she could, but that wasn't really a proper response, even if she was afraid to go through with the procedure. Good luck finding a doner OP!
She still got tested. I think she would have gone through with it if she was indeed a match, but anyone (including myself) would be dreading the surgery.
Well she'll be by your side through it all but not by your side due to an operation...hope the transplant goes well...
Considering how painful and risky something like that can be, you can't blame her or being relieved she doesn't have to go through that, even though she obviously would have.
Agreed. But she could have had the decency not to say that in front of him. I mean, OP is sick, and finding a donor is not easy. This is the kind of things he does not need to hear right now. Yes, she would have gone through with it, but it still sounded a bit selfish on her part.
My question is how is she selfish? Yes, I do think she would have gone through with it if she was a match, but Op is not the only one who is going to have to suffer. Getting that surgery can have side effects, things can go wrong, and she has every right to be worried/relieved.
I was precisely saying she was not selfish. That slip of tongue made her SOUND a little bit selfish in a sense that it kinda sounds like she's saying "oh thank god you're the only one who's gonna be suffering". I know that's not what she meant, and I commend her on what she was willing to go through for him. I'm just saying if I were OP, I wouldn't have liked it, especially coming from my bf. And it seems like he didn't since he posted an FML about it.