By anonymous - 14/06/2016 16:47 - United States - Inverness
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That is so sad and messed up. Rule of thumb I use when family asks for money is I ask what is it for. If bills I ask for it and pay it myself. Groceries I'll go to the store let them pick out what they need and pay for it. I never give them cash.
I hope you have stopped giving her money! Instead, you can offer to help her with her addiction problem. Your mom will probably retort, "I've raised you and you can't even help me pay for my bills now?!" Then you let her know that she didn't raise you to let her continue wasting her money on her addiction, that she raised you to be much better than that. All hell might break loose, but it's better to either help her get out of her addiction or step away, than to help someone who won't help themselves.