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Yeah I talk in my sleep quite a lot. Generally, I dream fictional stories, and I talk random shit or say a lot of things like "no, don't do that" according to my roommates. It doesn't really have any connection or meaning to my real life, it's just all quite random.

My boyfriend talks to me about his job in his sleep. He'all start asking me technical questions, what to do about such-and-such, etc. He answers me if I respond, and quiets down if I shush him, but if not he'll hold a one-sided conversation.... it's kind of hilarious.

They were both awake and he just had problems trying to find the courage to say it. Not sure how you got anything else out of this.

Given that he was struggling over what to say, finally said he couldn't do this anymore, got up, and left would be a pretty good indicator he wasn't sleeping, much less dreaming, when this happened.

So sorry, OP.

It's much better to be in a relationship where the love is reciprocated. Real love is caring about someone enough, that you want the best for them. Sometimes, that includes letting them go.

You're right about the timing. You would have felt a lot worse if you'd said it and then he dumped you.

Actually, he's been waiting a long time for you to tell him that you love him. Since you hadn't, he thought you didn't love him after all, so he decided to move on.

You not only saved yourself from embarrassment, but you also saved yourself from possibly being in a relationship long-term where only one person has feelings. If you would have told him that you love him, he might have stayed just to stay.

It's good that he was honest, but it came at a bad time for you. Hope you find someone that feels the same way!

I feel sad for you. Too bad love didn't go both ways this time. However better earlier then 10 years in a marriage to find out.

You're lucky you found out now. If you stuck with him, he'd have always had the upper hand.

lucky you dodged a bullet !

There is nothing wrong with him not loving her back.
It was also good of him to be honest with her.

How did she dodge a bullet? He wasn't obligated to love her back just because she loved him. And he was kind to her by not leading her on anymore.

I kind of feel this way in my own relationship, however I don't know how I can approach my partner after 2.5years together about it.
Maybe not FYL because he told you before you said something, but FYL because he did it right before sleep time? It's a hard thing to do and you are better off now. I'm assuming you guys don't live together etc so it's easier to resolve the relationship. I feel like a coward for reading this. But I feel lonelier tonight laying next to him than I did while he was away all this week.

Kind of feel like he is breaking upp with you or like you want to break up with him? Either way it is always better to just say the truth, might go a lot better than you think :-) and if you being lonley is one of your problems I'm sure that is something fixable :-)

As you said...it saved you from embarrassment. That doesn't mean it didn't hurt...and it may hurt for some time yet. But the important thing is you are no longer wasting that love on someone who doesn't share those feelings as well. In the long run it would hurt hurt worse if it would have continued. He could have used a bit more tact and compassion. when telling you this...but what's done is done. Remember every relationship takes two to make it work, if only you were in it to won it then it never would have gone anywhere. Take some time to heal and then get back out there!

This FML legitimately made me sad. Please excuse me while I eat a large tub of ice cream and listen to Linda Ronstadt. Care to join me, OP?

I'll bring the spoons that are too big and the too sweet white wine. OP, what are you bringing to this pity party?