You're right about the timing. You would have felt a lot worse if you'd said it and then he dumped you.

You not only saved yourself from embarrassment, but you also saved yourself from possibly being in a relationship long-term where only one person has feelings. If you would have told him that you love him, he might have stayed just to stay. It's good that he was honest, but it came at a bad time for you. Hope you find someone that feels the same way!

I feel sad for you. Too bad love didn't go both ways this time. However better earlier then 10 years in a marriage to find out.

You're lucky you found out now. If you stuck with him, he'd have always had the upper hand.

lucky you dodged a bullet !

I kind of feel this way in my own relationship, however I don't know how I can approach my partner after 2.5years together about it. Maybe not FYL because he told you before you said something, but FYL because he did it right before sleep time? It's a hard thing to do and you are better off now. I'm assuming you guys don't live together etc so it's easier to resolve the relationship. I feel like a coward for reading this. But I feel lonelier tonight laying next to him than I did while he was away all this week.

As you said...it saved you from embarrassment. That doesn't mean it didn't hurt...and it may hurt for some time yet. But the important thing is you are no longer wasting that love on someone who doesn't share those feelings as well. In the long run it would hurt hurt worse if it would have continued. He could have used a bit more tact and compassion. when telling you this...but what's done is done. Remember every relationship takes two to make it work, if only you were in it to won it then it never would have gone anywhere. Take some time to heal and then get back out there!

This FML legitimately made me sad. Please excuse me while I eat a large tub of ice cream and listen to Linda Ronstadt. Care to join me, OP?

Better now then later!