Nah man, just because someone has it worse than you, doesn't mean your problems are nothing. Just like if you got a raise at work, and someone else won the lottery, it wouldn't make getting a raise at work shit. Eating disorders are awful, particularly when your family doesn't support your recovery, and her problem with her brother might not be the worst thing in the world, but you don't have to put her down for feeling upset about it

Absolutely. You can't let a SHIRT that SOMEONE else wears bother you. It's not that serious.

I'm not putting her down over it, just being realistic. It's not my fault the world isn't full of rainbows and Care Bears. The reality of the situation is it's just a Tshirt and she's reading too far into it. Brothers are a pain in the ass, that's the way it goes. But you can bet your bottom dollar when she has an issue with a guy, he'll be the first one to kick his ass for her..

Anorexia and bulimia nervosa are mental illnesses...when you are mentally ill it is not simple just to control how you perceive things, like a normal person would.

79, I see your point, but I think the point here is that SOMEONE ELSE didn't wear that shirt; OP'S BROTHER, who knows what she's recovering from and how dangerous her insecurities can be, wore the shirt. Imagine if you were a recovering alcoholic and your best friend showed up to your birthday party in a t-shirt endorsing beer. Wouldn't it make you feel like they weren't taking your struggle seriously?

Taking the situation in your eyes, let's say you have a sister, okay, and she has down syndrome. Would it be okay for you to wear a shirt that says "I hate stupid people"? I'm not saying people with down syndrome are stupid, but what if that's the way she thought of herself, because of her down syndrome? Oh but you wouldn't care BECAUSE ITS JUST A SHIRT? If you're family, you need to be considerate of other family members feelings. It's rude otherwise.

this is why I don't like you.

#47: Because you're convinced you live in a world populated solely by binary opposites?

Man I had no idea how much your diet effected erectile dysfunction....

Then that must mean there is something wrong with being skinny, blonde, smart, tall, or clean. After all they are called ' skinny, blonde, smart, tall, or clean.'

I'm going to ignore the "terrible person" aspects to this comment beyond to say that what he did has everything to do with her, seeing as 1. He was at her party and 2. Was entirely aware of the context re: her eating disorder. I will address the second part of this, however, because the fact that you believe eating disorders are inherently visible is a highly prevalent and dangerous attitude. Eating disorders, including anorexia, do not necessarily result in the sufferer becoming underweight; in many cases, by the time someone with an ED has reached the level of emaciation at which others finally find their disease legitimate enough to intervene, it is already too late to avoid damage to the organs and myriad other "side effects." The fact is, it is usually impossible to tell an eating disorder simply by looking at someone and making a snap judgment on whether they are "too fat" or "too skinny." The idea that people with eating disorders by definition must be skeletally thin creates an atmosphere of smug disbelief that dismisses and stigmatizes sufferers when they try to seek help ("you can't have an eating disorder--you're fat!" as though the body's natural tendency to GAIN weight in response to perceived starvation does not exist, or that anorexia is the only kind of eating disorder worth recognizing). "Fat" is a descriptor, not a pejorative. You might as well have said "there IS something wrong with being purple, that's why it is called 'purple.'" Fat people can be healthy and active. Fat people can have eating disorders. Being skinny is not intrinsically characteristic of either health or illness--though it is interesting that you equate thinness with both acceptable beauty standards AND mental illness (in the form of an eating disorder). It's that kind of sick thinking that allows EDs to remain an acceptable and ingrained part of our culture, and makes people keep pursuing asinine, arbitrarily imposed perceptions of "health" instead of true health. Tl; dr you are ignorant and that's bad.

101, if I were wearing a hat, I would tip it to you, sir.