By Chuncan Duncan - 1/4/2021 15:59 - United Kingdom

Teenagers

Today, my wife and I can’t decide if we should force my stepson to wait when he rudely demands something, in the hope he’ll learn patience and some manners, or just give him what he wants so he’ll go away and stop making us miserable. He’s 13. FML
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By  Bogrbon  |  22

From personal experience, kids (sample size 1) are a nightmare at that age range. Mouthy, demanding, and entitled and complaining about everything that isn't just the way they want it. Every small infraction against their demands makes it "the worst day of my life."

But you have to weather through it and make sure they learn they have responsibilities if they want to have privileges, that they need to wait and work for what they want, and that disrespecting legitimate authority generally brings negative consequences, otherwise they won't become well adjusted adults.

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By  Bogrbon  |  22

From personal experience, kids (sample size 1) are a nightmare at that age range. Mouthy, demanding, and entitled and complaining about everything that isn't just the way they want it. Every small infraction against their demands makes it "the worst day of my life."

But you have to weather through it and make sure they learn they have responsibilities if they want to have privileges, that they need to wait and work for what they want, and that disrespecting legitimate authority generally brings negative consequences, otherwise they won't become well adjusted adults.

By  Tui Nathan  |  3

Definitely make him wait. Has he just started being like this? Getting to that teenage stage. He probably get worse if you just give him what he wants, when he wants it. You's got this!

By  scruffymankillem  |  1

stop this nonsense, if your child wants something make them earn it, understand somethings might be bad for them (sweets and garbage) I set a rule for all the kids to follow where if you act out you work out, but also if they'd like said thing that is bad for them, I put an additional workout on top of the disciplinary ones as well, they understand life ain't fair and you have to work for what you want, it teaches them that being a jerk just makes them have to work more just right off the bat just for the things they want, I try to keep a constant reminder that their attitude and reactions to life can plummet them in the real world but at the same time if controlled and properly taken care of will help them sky rocket. it is not your job to tell them how to feel it is to help them learn to process things on their own. you have all the short cuts and cheat codes to this world, don't forget to teach them to your loved ones, give them the tools they need to fight for what they believe in

By  rotflqtms_  |  18

Don't make him wait when he's being rude, just don't give it to him unless it's something he essentially NEEDS to survive. Then make him wait since a few extra minutes won't kill him.