By Sadboy - 06/04/2012 14:24 - United States
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Has anyone tried the idea that, oh i don't know, OP's not actually gay, and his mother is just a bitch? seriously, I have no problems with gays, but don't assume that everyone is gay because they were mentioned gay. We don't need to have your life story because you heard "gay".
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You guys may say that having a gay son it's ok, but honestly you can't look at me straight in the face and say you are completely happy that your son is gay. Yeah you can accept him, yeah you still love him just as much. NO, I can't say I won't be a bit disappointed.
It certainly is possible. I know several gay couples with their own children and several more who have adopted. That's a horrible excuse to treat your child with such disregard. If my mother were like that I would never let her near my children, effectively taking away any grandchildren. Hate breeds hate. I'm straight, but that kind of disrespect is a mild form of hate towards gays. It's only worse that this is her child.
155- I'm gay, but I don't tell my parents because I know they'd do some crap like this if not worse. If you were a real parent you wouldn't be "disappointed" if your son or daughter was gay, why should you? You're obviously not one to have kids if you don't accept them for who they are.
The biggest job of a mother is to love their children unconditionally. They should want their children to be happy and you know what, if loving another man makes OP happy then his mother should consider her job as a mother a success, not consider his sexuality a disappointment. I know my mother loves me the same now that I am with girls as much as she did when I was growing up. Besides there is always adoption. Even if I was straight I have no desire to give birth to a baby...so there will be no biological grandchildren from me!!
I would venture that most people here saying they would or wouldn't love their children if they were or weren't gay aren't parents. Am I right? I'm not going to bother clicking on all your profiles. The fact is that you have NO IDEA how you will act once you have children. You may think you know, but trust me, you don't. I have two children of my own, and if either of them turns out to be gay, SO FUCKING WHAT. That doesn't make them any less my children, and it doesn't make me love them any less. My children are my world, and I love them unconditionally. THAT is the definition of a parent.
I didn't say I would not love him. I would love him just as much, be proud just Like any other dad. I am not homophobic, 3 of my closest friends are gay. However, I would still be a little sad that I get a gay son. Why? I am Hispanic, in my culture you want to see your son marry a woman and have children of their own. Like I said, if I got a gay son I would not treat him any different than I would a straight son, but I know that deep inside I would still be happier if he wasn't gay. I don't know why you guys automatically just thumb me down, it is my opinion to which I am entitled to.
226- If you truly believe in God and His word then you should know that your children are not created homosexual. I have my own theory of homosexuality: it's either a choice you make or a choice made for you. In that I mean that either you chose that path or your childhood or some experiences lead you to choose that path. It's not God choosing for you, hence the term "Free Will."
@236: Using your "culture" as a reason for being disappointed in a gay son/daughter is just...bullshit. We don't live in the Dark Ages...there are plenty of ways for gay couples to have children. Would you be just as disappointed in your children if they were straight but sterile? WTF kind of logic is that?
I love all the people on here saying they'll never be disappointed in their children. How many of you ever got told "I'm not mad, just disappointed." as kids? I know I heard it plenty. My mom's biggest disappointment in life is me. I'm straight, but I didn't finish college. When a girl with offers from NASA decides to be a trucker, Mom is disappointed. So don't worry, OP. If it's not one thing it's another. It just sucks that you had no control over the thing your mom doesn't like. I hope she still shows you love, though. That's what really counts. Everyone is disappointed with their kids at some point, it only matters that they never stop loving them.
272, stop putting words in my mouth. I clearly said, marry a woman and have children. Using my culture has a lot to do with it. Especially when in your culture isn't as "advanced" per say. My family is extremely traditional. I understand where you guys are coming from. You won't change the way I feel just because you disagree with me. Like I said, I would love my children either way. I WOULD STILL HOPE he wouldnt turn out gay. If he is then it doesn't matter. No need to be rude just because I don't follow your ideals. I just find it extremely hard to believe that a father would WANT a gay son. If it turns out he is, then who cares, I would still be the proudest dad, I would still die for him. Like I said, this is my opinion. If you don't agree you don't have to be rude about it. Just follow your ideals I follow mine.
I would be happy as long as my child is healthy and living Being a girl, I know more about dating guys so I could give him better advice then if he were straight If I had a lesbian daughter... Her dad will help :) lol but seriously I would be happy either way, I love gay people because usually they are much more accepting that others, especially the small minded ones
Wow, that's really messed up. How could that not be offensive?