By Anonymous - 23/12/2015 09:06 - United States - Pomona
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Well, informing her that she's actually homophobic will certainly ruffle her feathers.
People are afraid of change, and OP's mom is a prime example. They are stubborn and refuse to accept things that are outside of their comfort zones. This isn't to say that *everything* should or will be accepted, but if two people that love each other consent to get married, it doesn't affect anyone else negatively.
I don't think you can accuse someone of such a thing without knowing anything about them at all. For all we know, OP's mom could be gay & genuinely concerned that her son is acting on a trend. It's probably not likely, but you can't just say someone is definitely homophobic, especially when her son says she isn't.
65, the evidence is pointing that way. Why would she single out gay marriage as a trend? Was straight marriage ever a trend? (Well, with some people, it is, but that's a story for another day.) Her son wants to marry just like any other couple that decides to jump the broom. If she's been telling her son she's not homophobic, then she's likely lying, or she has some sort of warped reasoning. Now when people want to marry their cattle, pets, or children, then you can rest assured that I will be unhappy.
It's trendy? Yet straight marriage is a lot more common (even with the change in gay marriage rights).
People are saying its trendy because its new. Since its been legalized some people are seeing it as an option they can explore, not because they are gay, even they might believe it. (This is just what I've understood from people who believe that it is trendy, I'm not a homophobe)
Hopefully, she'll understand with time that your marriage is pure and not just a "trend."