I agree, the key is to reduce the pressure on him. What you can maybe do is to tell him 'No penetration tonight' and if it happens, it happens. You can also maybe try tantric sex techniques. Maybe try extensive foreplay on him as well, to take his mind off it. If he is great at doing foreplay, it means that he is extremely focused on you and your pleasure, hence the stress on his side. You need to tell him it is OK, he does not always have to be the perfect lover. Alternatively, you can try erection pills..

I actually like this idea. It might allow him to stay hard long enough to get out of his head and just enjoy the moment.

what a horribly ignorant thing to say. You are as empathetic as wildfires.

You really should change your username to 'uninformed'. Do you know the tale of the rabbit and the tortoise having a race? Well, OP mentions that her boyfriend is already consummately skilled at foreplay. One day soon he will get over his anxiety and then he will be shagging rings around the likes of you.

Dear uniformed, please change your user name to Uninformed.